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Congrats!

I've been trying to upload a few more pictures but my internet connection seems to be telling me to fuck off. Both mother and baby are safe and I appreciate everybody who's been here I'm sorry if I reached out to the internet but thank you for being there.

I was a fucking hot mess

EDIT: Fuck this, mom's actively in labor. Be supportive and excited. All this other shit can wait a few days.

I think the reasonable response is somewhere in the middle. From what you've written here, you don't know yet if it's your son's. He doesn't think it is, and it seems you're just ignoring that to focus on your strong desire to be a grandpa.

In all of this you haven't mentioned your son's feelings about this once. If it's actually his kid, it's his kid before it's your grandkid.

At the very least, you should be preparing your son for how his life may change if this is his. And bear in mind that he could choose to abandon this baby, even if it is his. You can't force him to be a present father. Or to get back with the mom.

What are you going to do if it truly isn't his?

I've unfortunately watched this situation play out, more than once, with the sister of one of my closer friends. Three kids from three different dads, so I've watched her, her family, and the families of the suspected fathers go through this.

I've watched multiple families of suspected fathers get excited (or not) only to find out it's not theirs.

I've watched one actual father's family practically disown him because he didn't want anything to do with his kid, but the family did. So they have a relationship with their grandkid, but the dad isn't present.

I've watched the mother lead on one family for around 8 months when she knew it wasn't theirs, because they let her move in and she thought it would be a better living environment for her and her kid(s). Hopefully the mom here isn't like that, but hormones and motherly instinct can make people do wild shit.

For one of the kids, she seriously had to get five paternity tests done before she figured out who was the father. She was sleeping around quite a bit in a short time after a breakup.

The most important thing is to get the paternity test done as soon as it can be. It may or may not change how you choose to involve yourself in this baby's life, but it's very important context.

I've also got to see just how much my own daughter means to my parents. My father is wrapped all around this little toddler's finger. So go ahead and be excited. A baby is a marvelous thing!

Just... temper it a little bit for the sake of yourself and your relationship with your son.

My own wife wasn't talking about her mucus plug with my dad, and we had been oversharing as we went through the long and arduous process of IVF with donor eggs.

Keep us informed!

Yep I'm freaking out and everybody's just talking about oh gosh money and liability and diapers. What about celebrating this new beautiful baby girls life? Nobody seems to be wanting to do that. I text my dad what her name was going to be and he just seem to make a joke and criticize the spelling of her first name, I'm just like I don't care you fucking spell it, my ex-wife wanted to put a y in Daryk, how can I fucking complain about a name. Just hope mother and baby are safe and I'm happy that my son's ex-girlfriend still keeps in touch with me and told me all these details about her mucus plug and her water breaking and the fact that she's probably going to be having a baby soon dilated at 4