It's probably time to leave reddit; even if you do manage to get your accounts back.
As a former mod of /r/Genderqueer I can say they've been terminally enshittifying for a while now; and have gone full AI rampage to eliminate human mods because they get accused of bias constantly. It doesn't help that some mods are legitimately bad too; some of the stories I could tell you from when I was in private mod-only meta-reddit communities would curl your toes. Even I wasn't without my biases; but I had the interest of my community at heart...which, as you know, nonbinary and genderqueer people are very vulnerable to abuse and harrassment.
It's time to step off the reddit mothership, and don't bother looking back unless you must. Tools like redlib can at least help you view reddit posts still, anonymously even if you can't comment.
I've been running my own personal Redlib instance locally using WSL2, Docker and Podman. It's been invaluable in ensuring I can still read things I need to read.