"You're going to write about it, aren't you?" Ra asked as I got back into the car. It was a resigned tone rather than excited.
We ended up in the parking lot for some 20 minutes, as the first problem on her end was that she was ordering too many calories via the app.
She was going to cover my lunch, but as she had one of the boys in the car, that caloric limit needed to apply to them. I reluctantly download the app, and after navigating the labyrinthine process to order a fucking burger, when it comes time to check out, my only active card is not accepted by the app.
We're already there, so I go in. I try ordering exactly what I just had at the counter. Fuck the kiosk; if your app doesn't work, that about all I need to know about your tech stack. The cashier seemed surprised that McDonald's sells McDoubles and repeated my order back to me as a Quarter Pounder. An Abbot and Costello routine ensues, but at least the order was correct.
Meanwhile, back in the car, Ra has placed a second order to obviate the caloric limit, which, let's be reasonable, is absurd coming from the establishment it does. What if, just hypothetically, you're buying hamburders for an entire football team?
Needless to say, I deleted the app.
That's roughly four hours ago as I type this sentence (I have no idea how long this is going to turn out, but I have a week to cover, and it took this long to explain 20 minutes).
We're in Temple, Texas, where I've just spent two nights after five with my ex-wife in Killeen, but the destination is Austin this time ... thankfully, I park surprisingly close to the Atheist Community of Austin, which is her destination, so dropping me off was far less of a delay than it could have been (the McDonald's fiasco made her late to the lecture).
I will say, indoor plumbing and real meals for a full week was rather nice.
So as not to be redundant, the basic setup is this: We had a wild temperature swing forecast for last Saturday that I was trying to figure out how to mitigate when I got a text from my ex, to whom I'm now been doing monthly sojourns since December, saying she's unexpectedly free for the weekend.
The unusual thing on this trip was ... there wasn't really an end date. We eventually settled on Tuesday, but then Amazon double-charged her for an order that left her unable to cover my ride home until her check clears Thursday.
This opens up an unusual opportunity. Temple and Killeen are far closer together than Austin is to either, and Ra wanted me to come back and do another round of interviews with Mike, a former journalist in desperate need of donations for medical bills.
Ra saved half the cost, and my ex paid nothing, so, really, win-win.
So I settle in at her place and hang out in the garage with her husband so I can vape while he smokes. There may have been weed involved; I definitely cracked a beer.
Ra's husband, whom I'd met once before, is genuinely one of the more interesting people I've crossed paths with in years. Another one was who I was waiting on a ride to go see.
My first round with Mike was fascinating on the conversation front, but left me with no clear narrative on how to convince strangers to donate money to the cause. He got some heavy-hitters in journalism to donate for his last campaign and that well is dry.
I thought we had an angle with "longtime queer activist" (this is how he was sold to me at the start of the project), but he wants to leave that out. I fully respect that, but as I told Ra, who is high up in Temple Pride, that would have been an angle I can work with far easier than "grizzled veteran journalist suffers two brain hemorrhages and a stroke, ends up severely immunodeficient."
This time, I switch tacks. I bring a six-pack and just try to shoot the shit. It works.
We talk about his childhood (it wasn't pleasant) and his career (it was) more fully, and about my life -- to establish rapport. I've finally broken down the wall, and we're talking as equals.
But two hours in, he's due his pain meds and muscle relaxer, and I feel I've sort of expended his energy (he'd had physical therapy just before we arrived). And he's been meandering and incoherent frequently without those.
I text Ra for a pickup, and we all agree that I'll come back Friday so we can continue.
Putting me back in the garage with Ra's husband, with occasional cameos from Ra. The conversation flows for hours, as though we've been doing this for years. As the atheist seminar was his idea to attend, in addition to being a leftist anarchist, I suppose I shouldn't have been surprised.
The funny thing is, he isn't a burner. I'm sitting in that garage solely because Ra and I are. He always has reasons behind surprises, and in this case, it's that the animist in him wants to commune with nature when camping, not be subjected to amped electronica and flashing lights.
I can't argue that point.
Speaking of communes, that quickly becomes a topic of discussion, as he's looking for acreage to start one -- right then, on his phone. I mention that I've had vegetable gardens and raised rabbits, and I sure as fuck know how to set up and maintain offgrid solar (though Ra's electrician goddaughter is still insisting she'd be much happier if she could fully go through my system).
I'm immediately invited to join.
The timeline is murky, as they have to sell their house in addition to finding the right patch of land. And he's doing due diligence, much preferring an unimproved site that already has a well and septic tank (these are oddly surprisingly frequent ... I guess people get that done and then run out of money?) and a decent forest canopy.
"Chickens," he says. "Rabbits are great, but that's going to get old for every meal."
Thus begins the tale of how I got my rabbit from a farm where they cohabitated with chickens, so this is clearly not going to be an issue.
The remainder of the evening is sociology, geopolitics, political theory, linguistics, the adventures of being homeless ... every time the topic veers somewhere new, both of us are ready to engage.
It was fantastic! I was able to go into my preferred register for vocabulary and still be understood without a single question as to what I was talking about. As much as I love my ex, she cannot provide such mental stimulation.
Things wind down, and the next morning, I'm up way too early, as I'm sleeping in the living room and they have two boys.
Turns out, Ra has to work today, so now I'm going to be in the garage until at least 5 p.m. The conversation proceeds apace, and we just chat when he's available (he's a stay-at-home dad to two special-needs kids).
Finally, it's time to head to Mike's. Thankfully, his prognostication is correct, and he's of sounder mind than yesterday. With yesterday's chat, I was just trying to establish rapport.
This time, it's an interview.
Much of what we talked about is in confidence, so I can't really spill the tea ahead of whatever we settle on for fundraising copy. Thankfully, Ra is handling the back end; I just need to write.
Suffice to say, I think I have enough to craft something decent. And, oh, this is actually a paid gig: $100 on delivery for maybe three or four grafs. That's the immediate one. There will be another that's much larger so he can go to one of the clinics that specializes in brain stuff (think Mayo).
Two prominent (I'm taking his word for it) local neurologists have said he still has a chance of full recovery with the right treatment, and he's been working on a book documenting the hell he's been through in the U.S. medical system. Oh, he also could use an editor.
At this point, I point him to Beehaw on his phone and pull up a random recent post, putting it to him: This is my writing style; does this work for you? Anything past "yes" would sound like narcissism, but he assented.
So I promised him, then Ra, that I'd have something ready by Monday at the latest. Her goddaughter is going to try to come by tomorrow.
Of course, I'd set myself a Monday deadline in that moment. When we talked last night about heading down to Austin, she said she wanted to be out of the house by 1 p.m. Then one of the boys started acting up, so her husband didn't end up coming along.
"Just for the record," I said at 1:03, "I had everything packed and ready to go at 12:59."
"By 1!" Ra said.
"And you said it to someone who works off deadline."
I don't want to get my hopes up too much, but there are significant opportunities here with people who, you know, actually follow through on plans, so my hopes aren't exactly at baseline.
I got the link via my activist connections and figured providing it was a public service. I'll grant you I did no research, as I've been in the orbit of Street Medics for a bit, so I don't really need that training.