The lighter side of ADHD
I have literally taken notes on my phone in real-time to resolve some of this. Both to track whatever firehose is aimed at my ear-holes, and to recall points I wanted to make 10 minutes ago, because I couldn't get a word in edgewise.
When asked what I was doing, I simply reply "I have to take notes - there's too much information here." It goes over surprisingly well.
You may have better friends than me. I've had people say that it's "disrespectful" because I must be focusing more on what they said vs what they're now saying or something stupid IDK.
Don't forget: you already know what they are saying based off context and they are struggling to remember a word and you blurt it out for them because the conversation gap is painful
I'll do you one better: you know the entire point they're trying to make two sentences ahead of where they are.
yea I am horrible at verbally explaining things but people who express a single sentence using ten feel like grating me like a carrot
That chart is missing the 35% I understood what you were saying after the first nine words and now I'm getting awfully bored.
(of course sometimes I understood them wrong and make an ass out of myself 🫣)
What the fuck? Do...do I have ADHD? This entire meme is...me??? My wife gets annoyed when I interrupt her, even though she will talk straight for 15mins and leave no gaps in...and she has been told she has ADHD.
Or is this like "hahahaha, I got a cold, so I googled symptoms and it says I have stage 4 brain cancer"...meme?
https://add.org/adhd-test/ do yourself a favor and take this. Or you could ask your primary care provider to refer you to see a therapist or a psychologist and ask them to administer an ADHD screener (Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale (ASRS-v1.1)). With any luck that will be enough to get you a referral to a psychiatrist who can actually prescribe medication. I was diagnosed as a child and re-diagnosed a year ago and my doctor said the fact that I responded well to medication was enough confirmation for her. Good luck!
edit If you ask doctor google, you could also be pregnant so maybe get that checked out as well! (/s)
do I have ADHD? [...] she has been told she has ADHD.
We have a tendency to cluster up, so the odds are really good, yes.
If you're actually concerned, get checked out. While I appreciate the rising visibility of neurodivergent traits, it's also very clear that ADHD (and to a lesser extent, autism) are very much "in style" because people will make a meme around just about any human feeling and claim it to be related to ADHD or autism. This one seems a bit more relevant, but again, if you're truly concerned, get checked out. Don't rely on memes from the internet to diagnose you.
Normal human feelings are related to ADHD and autism, because many symptoms of both are just normal experiences happening more often. Everyone knows what being overwhelmed or impulsive is like, that doesn’t mean neurodivergent people don’t experience it to greater extents and with a greater frequency.
Right, I agree. But when you see posts like, "the adhd way I hold my pencil" and it's literally just how you're taught to hold a pencil, it starts to be problematic. If you make everything that's "normal" into something that's neurodivergent, it's gonna make actual traits and symptoms seem much more abnormal. And it also encourages people to claim they have it when they don't. Like when someone says they have OCD because they like their desk to be organized. I know that organization can be a symptom of OCD, but the severity of the stress and discomfort of disorganization when you have OCD is gonna be much higher. So it creates a sort of distorted image of what these things look like and it makes it harder for society as a whole to recognize actual neurodivergence. "My cousin has OCD and he's not like that, you're just being weird" is a sentiment I've heard way too often.
If someone needs to be overly organized I would be more likely to assume they are just on the ASD now, but I definitely remember people joking about OCD like you're saying. I have AuDHD (high functioning autism and ADHD) but that wasn't in the DSM until like 2014, so as a kid I just got the ADHD diagnosis. Now it makes so much more sense why I feel like Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde sometimes. My autistic traits desire organization and cleanliness but my ADHD is good at "filtering" the mess out until it gets REALLY bad. Then I go into a cleaning frenzy ala old lady Sophie trying to clean Howl's castle. Sadly I don't have the grit of Sophie so I end up getting burnt out and being unable to clean anything for two months.
%100, at least this will get me to get checked out. I went as a kid, but this was 35+ years ago now. I don't remember what the diagnosis was, but that's back when they'd just say kids are eating to much sugar which makes them hyperactive, which is bullshit. This at least makes me feel like I do need to get checked out though, cause this silly meme is shit I do on a daily basis without thinking about it.
You might have gotten in before they added the H lol. My diagnosis in the early 90s was called just ADD. They hadn't added the "hyperactive" part yet. The name does it a disservice though because it isn't an attention deficit, it is in fact the exact opposite. I have too much attention - I just can't always pick where that attention goes.
That would make sense. I just remember going to a doctor and them asking me a bunch of questions and then talking to my parents about some shit and I remember him saying don't give him a lot of sugary stuff. Nothing more came of it.
mentally mashes the "speed up text" button
I have to turn subtitles off in games or else I will get too frustrated by the voice acting and do exactly that. I had to force myself to listen to the wonderful VA work in Baldur's Gate 3.
Yes, sometimes I hate when the message is fully conveyed but the person keeps holding the conversation without adding anything of relevance.
Obviously when I am speaking the entire context needs to be explained though
Of course! 😆
Without my entire head canon they will think I'm jumping to conclusions again. 😔
i just accept that i can’t say what I want to say and forget about it
This is the way. Embrace your NPCness
Unrelated to the meme itself but I fucking hate the term "neurospicy". It reeks of TikTokers trying to posit themselves as "quirky" in their bio and has the same problematic downplaying of actual issues that "it's not a disability, it's a superpower" does.
My take: It’s only a disability within our society, with its made up mores and expectations.
Point is, play the game but don’t feel bad about yourself.
I'm starting to suspect that maybe there aren't really turns. Maybe it's just people interrupting each other's monologues.
Depending on the people involved? Actually, yes. There are familial and regional differences - let's chalk it up to culture - where you either wait politely, or interrupt the fuck out of everyone else constantly. Clashes between these two groups are never pretty.
How do people know whose turn it is, no matter how large the group is everyone else talks one at a time like they just know
Yeah I have a bad time sometimes. I am actively trying to get better. But usually it feels like everyone else gets an obvious gap to talk but I don't. I wait until someone stops talking but then it's anyways mis timed because someone else goes
This makes it sound like 95% of the time, the interruption is deliberate.
yeah that was my first thought, for me it's at least 35% "isn't it my turn"
and another big chunk is, "before you continue, there's some important information i must share that may alter the course of your remaining speech, so i will cut you off as a favor"
20% "I just finishing processing the last thing you said and will now respond to that"
"I thought it was my turn" is more like 45%
The rest shrink proportionally to their current ratio to each other
Also missing: "You've been talking so long without getting to the point that I've forgotten most of it and am vibrating with anxiety and will now ask to be reminded what we're talking about."
I'm also autistic next to suspected AD(H)D and I sometimes have the annoying tendency to just talk over people when they take way too long to say something when I already know what they're going to say. It's not a great thing to do but sometimes people just talk so slowly. I wish people would just speak a bit faster so my mind doesn't constantly ping-pong everywhere in the second half of their sentences
What artist made this?
It's probably AI generated
You can tell by the bleeding at the bottom of the pie chart.