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Yuuup. Woman in engineering here. I once had a supervisor whose behaviour I thought of as normal, but two guys I worked with separately reported him to HR for bullying after seeing how he treated me.
It's funny, I had many years with almost no career progression, now my boss is a woman and I'm having to get used to the idea that bonuses and promotions are things that actually happen when I work hard.
My wife was marked down on her PhD because she "wasn't nice enough" to her supervisor. All the assessors gave her top marks, but her supervisor vetoed them.
Not in stem but the same thing happened to me. I used to be able to speak to a room and be heard. Now I need to raise my voice, sound a little whiney or bitchy or nobody hears me. Only my closest friend still asks me for advice or to share my knowledge. Used to happen all the time.
At least I pass. I got that going for me.
The experiences trans men and women have with misogyny will never not be fascinating to me. Like, for the first time ever we have this huge sample size of people who have experienced how their gender presentation affects how people interact with them, giving tangible proof of misogyny in action. And it can't just be swept aside with 'MaYbE tHe wOmEn JuSt miSuNDerStOoD' or 'mAYbe tHe mAN diDN't MeAn iT LiKE tHaT'. I mean idiots will still make idiot arguments but at least it chips away at them a little bit.
I'm female presenting. I've known people who thought I was a cis woman for months, and I don't keep being nonbinary or trans a secret.
When I read actual cis women's accounts of misogyny, and also trans women's accounts, I can't relate. I don't get shut down the same way. Somehow, despite others perceiving me as female, I kept the tiny part of gender presentation that tells people to sit down and shut up when I'm talking as if I were a man. I don't understand what it is, but I still have it the same as before I transitioned.
I would love to know what it is so I can share it, but I can't tell why people respect me as much as they would respect a man. It's bewildering.
You could be lucky too or maybe you don't notice the microaggressions.
Confidence goes a long way, but maybe that is simplifying the experience too much.
Is this unique to women? Do men experience anything similar in women-dominated fields? I'm not actually sure what these may be; teaching, childcare, hair stylists? I realise this may make me sound misogynist, but I'm really clueless.
Unfortunately I've seen men tend to dominate the conversation in women dominated fields as well, but only if they are misogynistic. I work a lot in the fiber arts industry and more often than not it is assumed I don't know anything because I am a man and humble, but I quickly prove my worth with my 20 years experience and it's wonderfully collaborative. Then I see so many men come in and say, "Look I knit a sweater! This is easy! Give me praise!" and weirdly enough there are enough people out there that just feed those egos. I completely blame the men in this case, but this problem wouldn't be so prevalent if everyone was just willing to shut these idiots down.
Men in fem dominated fields get the glass escalator to promotion.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glass_Escalator
Propublica has some useful peices, but it might take an ebsco search or three to pry loose that dangerous and embarassing level of ignorance about what living is like.
Watching sociology videos can be a bit of a grind, but tastes better than foot-in-the-mouth.
This is anecdotal, but male teachers get a special treatment if the school staff is mostly women.
I know I'm gonna go on a hot take that looks like is deflecting the problem but I experienced bullying and seen it and it can be worse than how they treat women. I think is related to a play of power the alpha beta shit existed before it now just has a name. Is all a play of power over others an male social status in the eyes of other males may times is defined by the amount of vaginas they have, had and would have access to. I think is all related and women get the short end of the stick a lot more than men but some get get the stick that says "fuck your life haha". Of couse some men take it entirely with women for some reason too so with them women get both sticks.
And (knowing the internet i say this beforehand) please with this I do not mean to do a whataboutism argument. Women do have a problem here as well as many other problems we all need go help with.
here's a related video from Angela Collier, if you want to read more about how women are treated in STEM
I discovered her channel a few months ago and binged almost all of it. She’s great!
Stem is still heavily dominated by Men, biology might be different as more woman are in bio than men are, and becoming more common in other stems. engineer and programming sitll gear towards men.
I was actually joining the chat to write that things are not that different in biology. I have a PhD and 7 years of postdocs behind me. Over the years I have :
Patriarchy is not only cruel towards women, it's also dumb. It's like corruption. We're hurting ourselves, all of society, including men, by not giving the fitting positions and proper compensation and recognition to people who merit them.
