They called us 'gifted' to justify our separation from others.
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I'll go for the "Don't get diagnosed" and "Kill yourself in your 30s" strat.
Edit: For anybody actually trying to unassigned variable themselves, please be adviced. There are CEOs on your way out and be carefully NOT to take any of them with you. That would be AWFULL and HIGHLY illegal. We ABSOLUTELY DESPERATELY need those CEOs, so please be carefull with them.
Same, thou I'm not sure I can wait out the last couple years to 30. Might be fun to have my birthday be my deathday tho
You uh...ok? It does not sound fun to have your birthday be your death day :(.
Life is both pointless AND miserable and it would be fine if it were just one or the other but I'm just so fucking tired of putting effort into a life that I hate living
Please don't hurt yourself. You are worthy of love.
Worthy? I can accept that. The problem is my presence in someone's life would only make theirs worse. Well it would be a problem if I were capable of seeking out a relationship which I'm not. Not even comfortable with hookups anymore. Accepted that love, affection, and intimacy just aren't for me.
Relationships aren't for everyone, and that's fine if its your choice and you are actually happy with it. Regardless, life is worth living. It may not seem like it now (I've been there) but I assure you there is a reason you're here. Keep your head up.
If I start hoping, it's just gonna make everything hurt more
No need to hope. Just keep going. I know how it feels and I know I would have said the same in your position but all I can say is keep going. I'm rooting for you. If there is something I can do that will help, let me know.
Nowhere near it, but haven't started looking for a place to get a helium or nitrogen tank yet so I call it a win. Tbh I should hurry up so I have more money left to leave to friends and family but I just haven't been able to get around to it.
Your friends would almost certainly rather have you than any money you would give them.
I mean, sure, but I see them irl maybe once a year, and it's easy to forget people exist (or existed) when you only interact with them online. I'm always the one reaching out and trying to do things and god knows I've let enough friendships vanish by getting sick of it and stopping initiating things and watching them never notice.
I don't think it's as easy as you think. It sure isn't for me. There are a lot of friends I have lost touch with over the years that I think of often. And hope are still around.
At this point it's just more of a question of when, not if
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If I had lost touch with a friend and then suddenly I got some money they willed to me after they killed themselves, I would be pretty sad about it. Even if I had forgotten about them until I got the money. I'd also feel very guilty that we lost touch because I would think maybe I could have done something.
Yeah and for now the crushing guilt is keeping me pinned down. At some point, things will get bad enough that I no longer care who I hurt and I'll do it anyways and I'm such a piece of shit for it. Ah well, add it to the pile of reasons
30s give you "Dadbod Multplier"
Yayyyy, another reason to kill myself
I'm now one further in the "incapacitated for years" state
I was in GT classes in middle school and my freshman year of high school and I absolutely did not belong there. But, you know, I liked teaching myself things so obviously I should be put in the class that made me do extra boring bullshit work.
Why yes, I did end up dropping out of high school and getting a GED.
Never been evaluated for ADHD, but I have basically all the symptoms my daughter, who definitely has ADHD, has, or had them at her age.
Not to diminish the struggles of those with ADHD, but this is also a thing for neuronormative folks. Society simply tells us all to be brilliant in order to be useful for others. But the problem is that not everyone of us are the same and if we don't live up to expectations, we also end up disappointing ourselves. So, we try to keep up to please others, neglecting ourselves, and hence leading to burnout.
This hits a little too close to home. Still working on the anxiety and depression as an adult, but burnout has been a something I have done my best to put my foot down on, especially after my last job gave me panic attacks.
I almost failed 1st grade because I didn't understand the concept of homework. I had a huge pile of it stuffed in my desk. Eventually, they called my dad and I was given a chance to do the weeks of assignments and catch up. I didn't do them because I was bored and spent most of the time in my own mental world. I finished the whole stack in a weekend. I got the dreaded "GT" designation in elementary and was accepted in this "pre-AP" program in middle school. Most people would view this as a mistake, but due to my specific circumstances, the alternative would have been worse.
The burnout bordered on abuse. I had less homework in the actual Highschool AP classes. Hell, I had less homework in University. Apparently, the parents threw a big fit as their kids were staying up until midnight finishing homework several nights a week. The solution was to the lower the requirements to stay in the program. We were fucking 12! My hair was falling out by the end of the year. The first 2-3 weeks of summer I did nothing but sleep as I was exhausted. I have no idea how I managed to force myself through that for 3 years straight, while going through puberty, rapidly declining mental health, and still failing to find the right kind of stimulation.
When I got the diagnosis as an adult, I went through a mourning period at all of the things I could have done better. Once the plastic in your brain settles, doing things as an adult is significantly harder. It is what it is though, and I still have done amazing things with my life.
Actually great advice, I need to brush my teeth
Thanks. I’m going to get out of bed and socialize poorly tonight because of this.
Maybe I’ll report back tomorrow how poorly it went.
I just got back! It went well. I felt awkward half the time, but I got to have some real conversations with some old and new friends.
I have some new friends that I’ve only interacted with in really busy contexts, and it was nice to chat with them in a calmer space. I woulda missed the chance if I didn’t give it a shot tonight.
If only we applied ourselves.
I do apply myself from 2-6 am until my eyes are dryaf and wont stay open