I think it's because a bunch of people are just looking at the everything feed instead of just their subscribed comms (myself included), because it's easy to handle right now with lemmy not having an enormous userbase. But these people obviously know where they're commenting if they're saying that.

I mean I don't come into your house and basically tell you you're just imagining your problems. It's ableist as shit.

I find frequently even people who have the same disability or an adjacent one can say some really ignorant stuff, almost as if their struggles gives them a license to judge others. Relating to others' struggles is good and validating, but don't let it turn into a comparison.

Even for myself, I didn't understand the whole picture of what ptsd can do to you when I was dealing with just anxiety. Now that I've experienced it, I understand the fucking sheer terror that is living in hypervigilance mode, it really seems unfathomable if you haven't been there. And I have no idea if I experience it like others do. Not saying one is worse than the other but they are not just variations of the same thing.

I'm looking forward to the world being a better place when people in general understand it's best not to try and decide for someone else what their experiences mean to them, and nobody wins when you compare suffering. I hope we make a lot of progress in my lifetime.

Sad PTSD solidarity fistbump. I haven’t told anyone but my husband and a close friend about my diagnosis because I absolutely do not want to deal with the possibility of insensitive shit being said. Avoidance is also a PTSD issue, but since I’m acknowledging it that circles back to being okay again.

I hope you’re able to find a routine and/or medication that gives you some relief. I’m not “fixed” but my meds have definitely helped me.

I dated a woman with OCD. It is not at all like what pop culture thinks.

I genuinely don't believe anyone anymore when they say they have ADHD

It's also hard to verify whether they actually have OCD or not, since OCD lies not only on a spectrum, but also differs in terms of the subjects being obsessive compulsive over.

I myself am lucky to only have a mild form of OCD that I had to learn to live with throughout my younger years. My OCD fixations are 1. having to do something an even number of times (can't just have one dumpling or three, gotta have two or four; can't just click my mouse like a normal person, gotta find some empty space to do another click to even it out, or spam it till my lizard brain is satisfied) and 2. having to go back the way I came (even if it meant walking a longer route), and if I don't satisfy those, I get extremely anxious.

Those fixations were quite severe when I was young and it got me into a lot of trouble. Over the years, though, I've managed to suppress most of it and learn ways to deal with the rest, and I am very grateful to even be able to do that. Seeing other people living with their OCD is a humbling experience.

(To be clear, I've never been diagnosed. I come from a culture that basically tells you to suck it up and deal with it, and "mental illness" just basically meant "insane" to my people, so me saying what I have is OCD is based off of personal experience and a bunch of self-research; it might even just be a different mental disorder, like how Jon Richardson found out his "OCD" was actually OCPD, but I don't know for sure. I'm not worried, though.)

I agree, and it drives me crazy when people say that about OCD. But I think there's a gap between the extremes, and if I have the potential to be wrong, I'd rather be wrong by being validating.

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(not arguing, just pondering) Actually now that I think about it, I don't think it's the opposite end of the spectrum at all, I think it's actually the same thing. If you think about it both are coming from not understanding that the disorder is (in my awkward words) the exaggeration of normal human behavior, specifically the exaggeration. Being able to relate to it isn't enough perspective alone.

That's... sad for him that his perspective is so small. Many people seem incapable of understanding things like this no matter what you say. Hopefully he doesn't damage someone with his perspective.

I am not that experienced with EDs but I personally think the most important thing with most maintenance is not that you don't regress, but that you get back on that damn horse when you fall off. You doing that shows self-awareness and willingness to fail and keep trying to work on yourself, which is true strength. So many people easily fall into a spiral of self-hatred and give up, but no, you're doing the work, and it's hard. I have good reason to believe in you too.

That tracks. I suppose it depends on whether I'm doing it to attract a mate or just doing it to feel good about myself.

Well, I guess to be fair, I do a lot of normal human behavior, like pooping and sometimes imagining inanimate objects have feelings. Maybe I just need to lighten up? 😛