this post was submitted on 25 Nov 2024
81 points (98.8% liked)

traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

1303 readers
117 users here now

Welcome to /c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns, an anti-capitalist meme community for transgender and gender diverse people.

  1. Please follow the Hexbear Code of Conduct

  2. Selfies are not permitted for the personal safety of users.

  3. No personal identifying information may be posted or commented.

  4. Stay on topic (trans/gender stuff).

  5. Bring a trans friend!

  6. Any image post that gets 200 upvotes with "banner" or "rule 6" in the title becomes the new banner.

  7. Posts about dysphoria/trauma/transphobia should be NSFW tagged for community health purposes.

  8. When made outside of NSFW tagged posts, comments about dysphoria/traumatic/transphobic material should be spoiler tagged.

  9. Arguing in favor of transmedicalism is unacceptable. This is an inclusive and intersectional community.

  10. While this is mostly a meme community, we allow most trans related posts as we grow the trans community on the fediverse.

If you need your neopronouns added to the list, please contact the site admins.

Remember to report rulebreaking posts, don't assume someone else has already done it!

Matrix Group Chat:

Suggested Matrix Client: Cinny

https://rentry.co/tracha (Includes rules and invite link)

WEBRINGS:

πŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈ Transmasculine Pride Ring πŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈ

⬅️ Left πŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈπŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ Be Crime Do Gay Webring πŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈπŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆ Right ➑️

founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
 

Hello everyone! Hestia here with a new Megathread! Years ago, before I transitioned and when I was still in college I took an anthropology class. My favorite part of the class was when we were covering different gender customs across the globe and got to make a report on one of them. I can't remember exactly which one I chose for that project, but what I do remember is a map with different pins scattered on it with various forms of gender-queerness. I decided to track it down and share it with you folks!

https://www.google.com/maps/d/u/0/viewer?ll=8.016975588774075%2C64.4248907814756&z=2&mid=1zDWxhBN5aOofwpE-FkZWQsiFDlE

Edit: you have to open this in a browser, if you're on a phone it will automatically try to open it in Google maps and won't bring up the info.

This map provides a brief summary of these genders, but does not go in depth. If you find any you're interested in, feel free to do some further research and share your findings here. I'll pin a comment to this post you can attach them. I'm going to share a couple that I found interesting and decided to look further into myself, both of them are non-binary and native american in origin.

The first one I want to talk about is the Winkte, which is a third gender role that was particulatly notable in the Lakota tribe The Winkte are seen as half-men, half-women, and considered sacred. They are typically AMAB and historically have served unique roles in matters of romance and matchmaking and often served as intermediaries for prospecting couples and their families. They also participated in war parties, functioning primarily as witnesses to battle and as doctors to care for the injured. They were also seen as seers, able to forsee paths to victory.

https://www.sdpb.org/blogs/arts-and-culture/the-winkte-and-the-hundred-in-hand/

This next one I'm going to talk about seems mostly local to the Zuni people called the "Lhamana" and I find the Zuni culture to be particularly fascinating, even just doing a cursory glance at it.

Gender roles were well defined in Zuni culture, but the Zuni also valued the concept of a "middle" as it represented stability. This originates from their creation myth, which I won't go in detail here because I don't feel qualified to summarize it, but it's in the link down below.

The Zuni culture is pretty neat and they don't refer to gender when talking about children. They believed that gender wasn't an inborn trait but something you acquired as you approached puberty. I wish this was the western approach, but alas.

As children approach puberty they begin to differentiate through different hair styles or clothing choices. AFAB Lhamana would grind corn and make a bowl of stew when they get their first period. There's probably some cultural significance to this, but I'm not going to do a deep dive on it right now. AMAB Lhamana would start to wear dresses once they hit puberty and start performing women's work. Both AMAB and AFAB Lhamana were allowed to switch between male and female gender roles as they pleased.

https://owlcation.com/social-sciences/The-Middle-Gender-in-Zuni-Religion

That's all for now! To wrap thing up I would like to invite yall to our public matrix server! https://matrix.to/#/#tracha:chapo.chat

As a reminder, be sure to properly give content warnings and put sensitive subjects behind proper spoiler tags. It's for the mental health of not just your comrades, but yourself as well.

Here is a screenshot of where to find the spoiler button.

(page 6) 50 comments
sorted by: hot top controversial new old
[–] ScreamoBMO@hexbear.net 11 points 8 months ago

I fucking love my trans comrades so much trans-heart

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 11 points 8 months ago (10 children)

I can't sleep so I have come to ramble

aromantic ramblingsThe gush posts that happen in these threads get me thinking about my aromanticism or potential lack thereof again. I kind of low key hate never understanding this part of myself.

A while ago I thought I'd cracked the code with "you know what I think I just don't like the idea of dating as a guy," but then I slipped back into "no I'm definitely just aro."

I keep reading about the aromantic experience and relating heavily. Like for example, I couldn't even begin to tell you where the line is between platonic and romantic love. This is certainly muddied by the fact that I just simply do not have a sex drive at all, and thus sexual interest has never been a part of the equation for me.

But I often find myself wondering if I've actually never been flirted with, or if I'm just too aromantic to have ever picked up on it. And my thing is why do I care so much? Why do I keep asking myself that question? Honestly I think the answer is I want to be flirted with. I think it comes down to not feeling lovable and craving external validation to the contrary. But what's confusing is I don't want it to stop at flirting. I want to be continuously loved by someone and I want to love them back. I just don't know what that looks like, but it sounds like being into someone.

Reading the gush posts, I relate to them. I know I've felt those ways before about people. I think I'd describe all of my close friends in a similar way. I'd describe my sister that way. I love my sister so god damn much and would do anything for her, but obviously I'm not interested in dating her. I'm capable of love I just don't know what the fuck that looks like in a romantic context.

Maybe it's priority that I crave. Maybe I just want to be someone's priority and for them to be a priority of mine. I don't really care if they also have that kind of thing with someone else, so maybe I'm also poly?

Or maybe it really is just the simplest solution and I'm just aroace and I will never understand romantic attraction and all of my relationships will always and forever be platonic.

Idk. I'm not sure if I'm making much sense but this was mostly a journaling exercise anyway. Hopefully sleeping will come easier now that I've put some of this to words.

load more comments (10 replies)
[–] nemmybun@hexbear.net 10 points 8 months ago

Who wants to see my tatas?

alphys-smug

[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 10 points 8 months ago (2 children)

MasturbationOne mildly annoying thing is that after masturbaiting now that I'm on E, my clit will still be some level of sensitive for like 30-45 minutes, where if I walk or move around, I can feel my clit rub against my panties and its kinds itchy.

load more comments (2 replies)
[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 10 points 8 months ago

cw yankee electoralismi got the most pathetic liberal comment on youtube after i said the blue team are just doing blue fascism and it's beyond pathetic how libs start waking up now again when the red team starts doing red fascism (it's the same fascism)

" you realize the β€œblue team” is not for that? You do realize that right??? And this song was during when β€œthe red team” was in power still. "

each question mark just fills me with more joy marx-ok this was under a RATM song because it's topical to fight against the machine again for the next four years

the song was released while Clinton was in office too! like goddamn

[–] screaminginvoid@hexbear.net 10 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Does anyone have any advice for finding doctors who are not transphobic? I'm asking for a friend with a rare autoimmune condition. She is based in MA, USA. She waited 3 months to see a doctor and cannot return to them because they are transphobic.

load more comments (2 replies)
[–] bolshevikLovelace@hexbear.net 10 points 8 months ago

been going to a lot more concerts/shows since transitioning, turns out dressing up and going out can actually be fun lol

partner found a really cool artist. i've been listening to them and it turns out they're anti-cop, anti-monarchy, sang at a pro-palestine protest AND has a show in my city this Friday??

we bought some tickets and i really want to try to make some friends this time but idfk how ohnoes

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 10 points 8 months ago (3 children)

i feel like the government can incentivise a switch to electric cars as much as they like, it doesn't change the fact that they're like Β£30k minimum

load more comments (3 replies)
[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 10 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Person was talking to me and my friend and asked what both of our pronouns were, when they have known the person next to me is a cis guy that uses he him. Instead of asking me directly what my pronouns were the cowardly asked "everyone" to try and perform being nice.

load more comments (2 replies)
[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 10 points 8 months ago

Heeeeeeestiaposting!

[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 10 points 8 months ago (7 children)

nicotine, drugs, eatingGym closed for Thanksgiving I think

Don't really know what to do with myself since I don't have work and have nothing really going on

Feeling bad about smoking again and trying not to overeat and squander some of my gym progress

Shroomin' a little bit shroomjak

Might do a little spa day at home for myself but I don't wanna have a dysphoria spiral idk

Hope everyone has a lovely gay ass Thanksgiving

πŸ¦ƒπŸ₯§πŸŒ½πŸ«˜πŸ₯”πŸ‚

The kitties said you're all lovely and hope you eat a yummy lil feast for yourself

load more comments (7 replies)
[–] rainn@hexbear.net 10 points 8 months ago

if you want tracha to organize a game/movie/some kind of other activity night complete this form with your ideas!

https://opnform.com/forms/tracha-chill-sessions-qysf2j

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 10 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I had a dream that I started using fae/faer pronouns because they made sense and that RGG was remaking Yakuza Dead Souls kiwami style. I still need to do some searching on the neopronouns to understand them fully but I know the latter is gonna happen kiryu-approaching

load more comments (2 replies)

I hope all the USians here are able to get through the holidays with minimal family induced harm.

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 10 points 8 months ago (3 children)

Any recs for black Friday sales? I saw that Torrid was 50% off, so I ordered some boots.

load more comments (3 replies)
[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 10 points 8 months ago

life is pretty good today, ya know? catgirl-happy

load more comments
view more: β€Ή prev next β€Ί