I'm not going to defend her as a person, I'm happy with people not liking her for all sorts of reasons, but calling her not attractive is bizarre. It's the sort of thing that a teenage girl sees and gets insecurities about, because "if she doesn't qualify as attractive then I must be hideous".

Honestly my appreciation of beauty got much better when I realised I was unconsciously judging everyone by every little flaw they had because I had picked up this judgemental devil on my shoulder that was ready to laugh at me if I found the wrong sort of person attractive. I changed my attitude from "where are their flaws?" to "what is their unique beauty?" and suddenly the world was full of beautiful people that I had never noticed before.

And when I get to know someone, the more familiar I get with them and the more I care about them, the more their apparent "flaws" become unique quirks of their beauty that I like.

Personally I have spent very little time looking at or thinking about Taylor Swift, but if you are curious to understand why people might find her attractive, I just did a search for "taylor swift pretty" and I can tell you it wouldn't be difficult to explain it. Let me know.

[–] Coreidan@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

To me it’s because she has a rat face and a plain Jane flat body with no curves. I just find her hair style and everything about her looks unappealing and boring.

It has nothing to do with her as a person or her personality.

I am not a fan of Jennifer Lopez or her music but she is at least physically attractive. She has a good looking body and face with some curves which I find attractive.

I am happy for you that you think she is attractive. I do not find her attractive at all. At best she’s extraordinarily average and no sex appeal what so ever.

[–] Excrubulent@slrpnk.net 15 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

I have absolutely no respect for this basic-ass fucking take. It's fine for you not to find someone attractive but to say someone has a "rat face" because you personally don't find them attractive is fucking reprehensible. There is absolutely no reason for you to waste people's time & attention with the things you personally find unattractive, you entitled shitstain.

And if you find this offensive, maybe you shouldn't go around calling people "rat faced" and then you'd have some ground to stand on.

[–] Coreidan@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Spotted the swifty.

Clearly I hit a nerve.

If you can’t handle someone else’s opinion on her looks then maybe you should get off the internet.

[–] Excrubulent@slrpnk.net 11 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Oh no, this was great actually. See, you started with the idea that she's "not attractive" and with just the slightest prodding you switched to "rat face; flat body; no curves", showing exactly what sort of vicious cretin goes around attacking women's appearance just because they don't make his dick hard. It's a you problem, not anybody else's, and now when that hypothetical teenage girl comes past this thread and sees your comment, she can scroll down and understand just how fucked you actually are, and maybe she'll realise your validation is not something she should seek.

My comment to you was really for that girl, so she could see it and understand that you have revealed the kind of person you are.

“If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it.

A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”

― Roald Dahl, The Twits

You are the person with ugly thoughts. You are doomed to be ugly, not because of your "rat face" or whatever else, but because you are the sort of person who calls someone "rat face"d. Another way to say this is, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". Again, this is not a comment for you, I've given up on you, this is for whoever needs to actually read it. You can get fucked.

Also, just notice how this person has to project an imaginary motivation into my mind in order to ignore what I'm saying, calling me a Swifty even though I already said I don't spend much time thinking about or looking at Taylor Swift. They lied to my face about one of the few things they actually know about me. That's how wrong they are, they can't even handle the few sentences I've written without losing grip on reality.

[–] Coreidan@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Rofl you’re projecting. Get over yourself.

You can’t handle a stranger calling some billionaire you idolize unattractive.

[–] Excrubulent@slrpnk.net 6 points 6 months ago

Notice how this guy has to keep telling me what's wrong with me so he can't see how I've called out his shitty behaviour. He has no answer for what I've said about him; he just has to make it about me, even though I've explained multiple times now that I actually don't give a shit about Taylor Swift and I'm happy for people not to like her.

His comments aren't for us; they're to keep his fragile ego from crumbling under the weight of actually examining his own behaviour, which is also how he became such a shitty person.

He probably also can't stop replying for exactly that same reason, so I'm going to release him from that by stopping myself. He'll reply, but it's just to get the last word. I would be shocked if it was interesting in any way.