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Dare I ask what the man vs bear meme is all about and why it seems to be upsetting men so much? [CW: sexism] (hexbear.net)

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I don't go on social media so I don't really get it but I have seen memes here and there of women getting mauled by bears presented in a "heh, serves her right" kind of way.

So weird that dudes complain that they can't get women when the message they put out there is they hate women and make images of them being brutally mauled. what-the-hell

EDIT: I did not expect to see people I trust minimise SA here. I'm disappointed, that's something I expect from a random chud blowing in from another instance, not you guys. Most of you were extremely cool in your answers, but to the one or two that weren't. Do fucking better.

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[-] ClimateChangeAnxiety@hexbear.net 15 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Imma be honest picking the bear feels like True Crime Brain, unless your point is only “Bears aren’t dangerous and it would be cool to see one”

It is the exact same as the white women who have told me they felt afraid for their lives and don’t feel safe in this city because homeless man talked to them in the park once (to be clear this is not an exaggeration, this is a story one of my friends has told me about “almost” getting attacked walking through the park, it was just a homeless man spoke to her once and then walked on the same path for a few minutes)

If I’m walking through the woods and I come across a man, I assume he’s in the woods for the exact same reason I am. Are y’all panicking every time you pass another hiker going the opposite direction?

Bears aren’t scary, but neither are people and if you get scared upon seeing a random guy you need to go to therapy and to stop listening to My Favorite Murder

[-] yoink@hexbear.net 58 points 5 months ago

actually that other comment wasn't enough, are you seriously suggesting that the only reason women are paranoid about SA and the culture around us permitting that is because they are too gullible? got too much anxiety from listening to podcasts and forgot about the real world?

seriously, Hexbear was the last place I expected to run into an argument trying to put it on women for being paranoid, this actually feels like a fucked comment to be making, i would genuinely reconsider what you're trying to put forward here

[-] ClimateChangeAnxiety@hexbear.net 7 points 5 months ago

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[-] yoink@hexbear.net 48 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I think Americans, (well, white Americans,) are much more paranoid about other people harming them than they should be.

I agree

As communists, are we not driven by a love and compassion for others?

One hundred percent, absolutely

I can’t count the number of times white people have told me stories where they “narrowly avoided harm” where there was literally no danger and the story is just “a homeless man was near me” or “a guy on the bus was talking to himself”

What I can't then square is this - as far as I can tell, this is an attempt to tar 'women being afraid of SA' with the same brush as an oppressed, reactionary group reacting in reactionary ways. My point was that you were actively trying to minimise the very real experiences of many victims of assault, and then you've gone on to do it again here

don't get me wrong, i get WHAT you're trying to say here, I understand what your concerns are but so far you've been unable to separate that concern from your opinion that women are exaggerating, or are at the very least being too receptive (?) of other's stories of assault. just about every comment of yours in this thread references the idea that women are paranoid because of 'True Crime Brain'. In this comment, you liken it to an oppressor being scared because of their very own propaganda about the people they're oppressing. Surely you can see how that's a bit off right?