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[-] PRUSSIA_x86@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago

This is anecdotal but I have seen this as a gay man living in Ohio. My whole family is from the sticks but I live just outside a major city now. There's a pizza place back home that my fiance and I can't go to because they won't serve him (he is, admittedly, quite fabulous). I can go alone, because I blend in, but him they will just quietly ignore and occasionally glance over to check if he's gotten the hint yet. No yelling, no epithets, but no service either.

[-] RaoulDook@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

Sad to hear these stories, but I did ask for it. I can't discount your experience because mine is as anecdotal as yours.

I hope these stories are rare though, and I also hope that anyone who does experience any of these kinds of discrimination will put the businesses "on blast" as the kids say by posting their experiences on social media to give them the stink that they deserve.

[-] PRUSSIA_x86@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Thanks, I didn't realize it happened either until one day it happened to me. Then it happened again, and again. Not frequent, and not always as tangible as being denied pizza, but little things here and there in the way people look at me and treat me that only started happening after I came out. I have yet to experience any actual violence, but the general vibe is such that I don't feel comfortable being out and am considering moving to a more friendly state.

[-] aidan@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

I don't think that's homophobia as much as rude staff who ignore people who aren't assertive. I'm not stereotypically gay/flamboyant but get ignored a lot in restaurants and stores because I'm somewhat quiet when I'm alone.

[-] PRUSSIA_x86@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

While I appreciate where you're coming from, I can assure you that, in this scenario, it was very much a case of homophobia. Unless everyone there grew new personalities at the same time that I came out.

[-] aidan@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Idk that's fair. But there is a big difference between how people treat others that I see and how they treat me at some restaurants.

[-] JonVonBasslake@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 year ago

Nope, what Prussia_X86 said sounds very much like homophobia. They won't serve his flamboyant fiance because he looks and acts "gay", and if they knew that Prussia_X86 was gay they wouldn't serve him either. While not all gays are as flamboyant as that his fiance sounds like, plenty are, and while not all flamboyant men aren't gay (or even attracted to men among other genders), a good chunk are. There's a reason a lot of people assume that flamboyant men are gay, and it's because a lot of them are.

[-] aidan@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

What I'm saying is that there isn't a reason to assume that's why they were ignoring him.

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