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We have to draw the age of consent somewhere, and better err on the side of "slightly older than it needs to be".
As I get older, I feel the age should be raised to 25.
Younger me would vehemently disagree.
But ya, this comment sums up the issue n the least amount of words.
I mean, a bunch of Victorian ladies already came up with "half the older persons's age plus 7" and I wouldn't feel terrible about making that the official yardstick. Kinda makes sense to have an age of consent that's relative to how old you are.
Even that gets kinda ridiculous as you get into higher ages. Like why should it be anyone else's business if a 30 year old wants to get with a 60 year old? And at some point, the power dynamic shifts to the younger member of the couple, but that's even more case dependent because you can have some cases where an 80 year old takes advantage of a 40 year old and other cases where a 40 year old takes advantage of an 80 year old.
I'd rather see a system that doesn't restrict people so arbitrarily but helps minimize the damage that one person can do to another when taking advantage of them, which can happen with couples of the same age, too.
Fair points there.
I was introduced to the "half your age plus seven" as the acceptable minimum age for dating someone, and it does work reasonably well for a good range of ages. But then I found out that it was originally the upper age limit for an acceptable bride...