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How do I stop a crush from developing further? (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by throwawaysalami@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I think I got a crush on my dance instructor. Which fucking sucks for all the obvious reasons. Normally I wouldn't be so worried. BUT I JUST HAD A GODDAMN ROMANTIC DREAM ABOUT HER. Seriously I just woke up from a dream about her confessing her love to me and me eagerly doing the same about her.

So how do you stop a crush from developing further? Because this is a well from which only disappointment may be drawn.

Edit: I am single btw.

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[-] XEAL@lemm.ee 11 points 9 months ago

From my own experience: cut all contact with that person... which may not be viable in your situation.

[-] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I had a crush on a girl when I was 14, still do, It's been 10 years. Havent seen her or talked to her for 8. Can a hypnotist or someone help.

Its not a deep crush now, but I still think about her OFTEN and am not at all over it.

Edit: jeez i wonder what it'd be like to be on the recieving end of that lol.

[-] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 4 points 9 months ago

Yeah, I've found that learned anxiety that my brain has around crushes from my past is one thing time does not heal.

[-] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 9 months ago

UPDATE: I JUST REACHED OUT AND SHE DOESNT EVEN REMEBER ME 😭😭. I FEEL ~~~dead inside~~~

[-] sanguinepar@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago

Ouch. That sucks 😞

At least you know though. Maybe you can move on now. Hope so 🤞

[-] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 9 months ago

Oh my brain will delulu itself into something I'm sure.

[-] throwawaysalami@lemmy.world 8 points 9 months ago

So it's either quit dancing or develop romantic feelings for her? Q.E.D. I'm fucked.

[-] scytale@lemm.ee 7 points 9 months ago

I mean, you can find a new dance instructor.

[-] RootBeerGuy@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 9 months ago

Yeah, salami, can you just switch classes? Or another dance studio, same course or something?

[-] throwawaysalami@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Yeah that's actually not that bad of an idea. If things go south I'll use this as a last resort. Change dance studios that is.

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