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You're on a date and it's going well. You get to choose, where do you go for dinner?
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I take it you’re not queer or trans hahaha. I’ll explain :)
You know how a lot of queer people classify themselves as tops, bottoms, sides, and verses depending on which position they prefer when they’re having sex? Well within those four classifications, there are countless sub-classifications.
One subclassification in the “top” classification is “service top”. A service top is a top who prioritizes “servicing”, or pleasuring their sexual partners instead of prioritizing their own sexual gratification when they have sex.
So basically I was making a joke about myself and my own sexual classification. Because I am someone who priorizes the enjoyment of the other person in bed, it extends to me prioritizing the enjoyment of others in my waking life and accordingly informs how I would pick a restaurant on the first date.
If I was hanging out with a bunch of queer and trans people, they would get the joke. But I realize that a random stranger on the internet probably wouldn’t get it. Sorry about that. Hope you learned something new, though!
Oooooohhhhh…
Thank you for the patient explanation. No, I am about as Cis as can be, a full Kinsey zero. But I thought that my time of running across strange phrases I completely fail to understand would come when I am considerably older. Not in my sixth decade. While I am not “with it”, to spindle grandpa Simpson’s quote, I do try to at least keep my head above water. At least I know what this euphamism is all about, now.
😄👍🏻