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mostly socialize.
i keep trying but basically I haven't had an enjoyable conversation in probably 6 years.
I'm kind of sick of just repeatedly hearing about other people's problems and them getting pissed off at me because I can't genuinely relate to them, at best I can just kind of fake it. I also don't subscribe to doomerism, which is basically all anyone wants to talk about apart from their personal problems.
I would like to be able to talk about movies or books or something. Feels like that type of conversation disappeared post pandemic. If I try to bring it up people just lecture me how they have no time for that and I need a second job if I have time for it.
I miss having constructive and interest conversations about non-personal things. Even online it is increasingly hard to find this stuff because it's just buried by the overwhelming mountain of lifestyle/wellness crap and product promotion, or political/social/celebrity gossip nonsense. And the format of those things is always someone weird condescending lecture or trying to make you anxious/insecure so you will buy their product... and so many people I know have internalized this mentality. And they act like you're the asshole if you aren't 'worried about toxins, you aren't chasing the latest fitness trend, or you aren't trying 'hack' life for more 'productivity'.
I would like to meet someone who is like 'oh cool you like to do X? what about it do you like?' etc. But I don't meet anyone who ever engages in this way anymore, and I notice when I try to engage people that way they get really weirded out, like taking an interest in them is offensive. or they will immediately change the topic to some personal issue they want to bitch about and ask me for advice on... even when I'm a complete stranger. like, why are you asking some random dude at a bar for career/family/health advice? and getting angry when he doesn't have some bullshit answer? so bizarre.
do you ever go to the specific communities around a topic? I mean im totally doomer but when on the anime, movie, book, game, etc. communities usually im just talking about shows. granted I do bitch about how I feel like shows and movies sorta suck in the last several years but you know I will sometimes say. oh that was not bad. or I saw X and recommend. just mentioned primal in one as being decent.