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It's been a nice month...
Who am I kidding, it's been an amazing month. I met some truly lovely people here, shared some of my experiences, good and bad, and shared many, many intimate details (in a positive sense)...
But it's time to say goodbye...

I had a terrible, dysphoric spiral yesterday and I just said the meanest things. They're still up on my profile...
I let out my internalized transphobia, I was misogynistic and overall I was just mean to the people trying to help me and give me advice.

I'll probably delete my account later today. I'll miss all of my posts, I really will. Just remembering the experiences, thinking about losing them is making me tear up...but it should be done
Goodbye lovely people of c/MtF. I will never forget you or the lovely times we had here, together. Sorry I couldn't be a better person...
Goodbye ๐Ÿ’™

Miisha~

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[โ€“] Daxter101@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Girl, I've been looking at your comment history, and the number of times the word "burden" and "parasite" has come up when you've been describing yourself in the last 24 hours, is through the roof.

Girl:

You're just having a mental health episode.

It's ok. You're fine. You're going to be fine. People here care about you.

This voice in your head telling you those deprecating things? It's a liar, and it's wrong. The proof is around you, in the way that people here treat you now, and in the way they've been treating you until now.

It sounds like you're going through some Shit. Do you have a mental health professional you're going to, for psychotherapy? If not, getting one might help a lot.

But at the very least, as much trust as you've got in this random internet stranger, put it all in this sentence:

These feelings will pass. They're just feelings. They're valid to have, don't beat yourself up for having them, and at the same time, they're wrong. Things are going to be fine, the people who care about you will continue to care about you.

Just take care of yourself until they do pass. I know these situations well, I've felt them in my bones. Sometimes, your mind just lies to you. Slowly, you can learn when, and why, but right now, you need care. And you can provide some of it yourself, and you can ask for it from the people around you, like you have been doing these days from all of us, asking for attention and validation, and provably getting it, because you deserve it, according to the actions of all these people who take the time to respond.

Take care, get cozy, and wait it out. Love ๐Ÿฉท