Unpopular Opinion
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Guidelines:
Tag your post, if possible (not required)
- If your post is a "General" unpopular opinion, start the subject with [GENERAL].
- If it is a Lemmy-specific unpopular opinion, start it with [LEMMY].
Rules:
1. NO POLITICS
Politics is everywhere. Let's make this about [general] and [lemmy] - specific topics, and keep politics out of it.
2. Be civil.
Disagreements happen, but that doesn’t provide the right to personally attack others. No racism/sexism/bigotry. Please also refrain from gatekeeping others' opinions.
3. No bots, spam or self-promotion.
Only approved bots, which follow the guidelines for bots set by the instance, are allowed.
4. Shitposts and memes are allowed but...
Only until they prove to be a problem. They can and will be removed at moderator discretion.
5. No trolling.
This shouldn't need an explanation. If your post or comment is made just to get a rise with no real value, it will be removed. You do this too often, you will get a vacation to touch grass, away from this community for 1 or more days. Repeat offenses will result in a perma-ban.
6. Defend your opinion
This is a bit of a mix of rules 4 and 5 to help foster higher quality posts. You are expected to defend your unpopular opinion in the post body. We don't expect a whole manifesto (please, no manifestos), but you should at least provide some details as to why you hold the position you do.
Instance-wide rules always apply. https://legal.lemmy.world/tos/
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If your opinion is literally shaming someone over their own life choices that generally don't have any affect on their life or yours, it's not an unpopular opinion, you're just a piece of shit person.
An unpopular opinion should be "I think owning dogs is too much work", not "What you do with your own body makes me judge you as a person". An unpopular opinion is "I think Pineapple on pizza is gross" not "I don't think trans people should exist".
Maybe learn the difference. OP doesn't have an "unpopular opinion", they're just a straight up fucking asshole.
Finally someone put it into words.
There is having an opinion and then there is being a dick. OP is leaning heavily towards the latter with their post.
I think people have varying opinions on what it constitutes to be an asshole.
Hey, you’re really good at getting me thinking!! To present myself as nonadversarially as possible, if I may I’ll spoiler some thoughts/questions below…
BUT! I really wanna have a pleasant chat about it. Good topic, respecting others. Anyway:
Tap for spoiler
Any right the OP retains to free expression on their opinion, if it’s a safe space?
Any thoughts on calling a behavior stupid in public where it may hurt a stranger’s feelings versus telling a specific person it would be wrong to participate in an activity?
& how could we share an opinion if we feel smoking is bad - anyway to do it without telling people what they can do to their own bodies? Or should we not offer opinions on smoking because it’s too paternalistic, telling them how to live their lives?
Also e.g. racists are poopy but for stuff we choose (apply ink to skin) are the haters necessarily not just big giant haters but actually BAD PEOPLE? (suggestion I guess is “Notice how this giant HATER stopped replying …” but hypothetically in a different thread “See how this low-life racist clown stopped replying” would not earn a comment from me … which I’m now reflecting on, maybe I should diss actions not people… I digress)
Try looking at the last paragraph of my post one more time. I'm not making any moral judgments on people who get tattoos, I'm saying that I don't like tattoos, and that if you want to get one, fine. I just won't think they're cool or badass or anything like that. I will think that they're stupid. Not that the person is stupid, but that the tattoos are stupid.
If you're looking for ad hominem, invective, and hate, you may want to look at your own comment.
By saying they're stupid you are morally judging them.
You are inherently saying it was a waste of time and/or money i.e. that OP was stupid when they chose to get them.
In reality the answer is that you're stupid for spending time and effort thinking that people with tattoos made stupid choices, rather then going, cool nice flare and enjoying something a little different from the usual plain jane button up look.
Again, this is not an opinion. This is conservative small mindedness in shutting down stuff different from what youre used to, that doesn't effect you. Reflexive and defensive negativity is something you feel, but it's not an opinion.
Seriously? You think people here are stupid? Your comment came blatantly off as telling people who get tattoos are stupid. That tattoos are stupid, people who get them are stupid, and that nothing about them are "cool", according to you. You don't own anyone else. You don't get to dictate or gate-keep what is 'cool' to someone else. You don't get to tell someone else how they are allowed to feel about themselves and how they should use their own body.
Yet you seem to be self-righteous enough to think that you do have that authority. You think you have the authority to tell others how they should feel or what they should do with their own bodies. And I have dozens of others in this comment chain hopefully (but clearly not) gotten it through your egotistical skull that you're not the ruler over other people's bodies.
Clearly we're all wrong but also right. We clearly misjudged that you have the internal ability to understand why your 'opinion' is so toxic, while also being right that you're just an asshole of a person.
I think you're just reading a lot of things in my words that simply aren't there. I'm not positioning myself as some kind of arbiter of anything, I am stating my own singular opinion, not making a sweeping judgment or declaration.
The words you used in your OP demonstrably suggest otherwise. If you're having second thoughts about what you posted and the venomous backlash you're getting, I suggest not only rethinking your own nihilistic world view, but also how you describe it to others.
The only one being venomous in this thread is you. Op shared an actually unpopular opinion, and you decided to read into it likely due to your own personal experiences.
It's not fair to blame op for things you're making up in your head. Some people think tattoos are stupid, oh no! Get over it, their opinion shouldn't matter to you anyway.