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Its a commitment. Pure and simple. You and another are going to live together and figure things out together come what may.
The commitment really comes earlier, the wedding is formally announcing that commitment to the world.
not really. before actually deciding its just sorta a vibe. At least for me and my wife. I mean if you decide to stay together forever its like when exactly did you make the decision and did you make it together? The marriage pretty much was that. We like each other and would be cool keeping it going but marriage was the culmination of a discussion that we are committing to doing this thing.
Having a small barrier (divorce) is not a meaningful form of comitment and if anything I'd wager it does more actual societal harm than good.
commitment is an individual thing. it could all be ceremony and it would not mattter. It sounds like your asking what the legal definition of marriage is for a particular country.
No i just dont think it's a good metric for comitment and doesn't encapsulate the spirit of committed relationship.
not a metric. not the spirit of a relationship. its a specific action a couple takes to fromalize the idea that they are sticking together. no one has to do it (ideally. check with your society to verify) necessarily. Now you get into the legal aspects which is mentioned a bit in the post. In the us you can add your spouse to your insurance and children but generally not others. Its one reason I kinda hated that they passed gay marriage as many states and businesses and insurers where allowing for broader ability to add people you live with. It eases inheritance stuff and there are some others for the us anyway. other countries may have other things. I mean my wife and I decided to not have kids. If we did we would not have without the legal cert around it.