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We're all products of our environment.
The ironic part about your statement is that you seem to have negative feelings towards your parents open sexuality, but there are cultures where that's within the realm of normal. It just so happens that the environment you were raised in outside your home happens to consider the environment you were raised in inside your home dysfunctional.
Especially in areas of extreme poverty, there often isn't enough space for privacy, so it just isn't a thing. If you have a single room hut with 14 children... that didn't happen because the parents snuck off into the bushes every time. It's not considered improper or dysfunctional.
Nah this is a weird comment. I highly doubt OP grew up in a space where it was not possible for their parents to shield them from their sexual activity, especially BDSM. This is child abuse bar none. At best it’s incredible negligence, but parents could have been getting off knowing how bad it was.
Also, I’m gonna need you to explain to me the evidence you have that families in other cultures are banging in front of their kids and that this isn’t affecting their psyche.
Kids will find anything normal if the people around them act like it's normal. The problem for OP was mostly caused by the disconnect between what her parents appeared find normal and what (most of) the rest of the country she lives in find normal.