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Have you ever witnessed OR heard of people irl have parents actually doing matchmaking? (Or like some weird "friends of friends" network?) (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Because I keep overhearing my mom trying to do this stuff for my older brother so I'm just wondering about other cultures... (My family emigrated from China)

Like I constantly hear that topic being mentioned in the livingroom... like phone calls, WeChat voice messages...

My mom keeps telling my older brother to "lose weight" and like nagging him about stuff...

So yea, I can't help but to also wonder about this aspect of life...

My parents are arrainged marrige... they just got introduced by... um... someone (as in family/friend got involved and arrainged for them to meet) then they talked and were okay with each other so they just settled down and got married... then my older brother and I came into existence...

So there's that...

Also: Do people actually just use Dating Apps in the west? Like its a corpo algorithm... but then again having parents involved is also kinda weird ngl...

(Honestly this whole relationship stuff is just so foreign to me... in movies and tv, its almost always portrayed as a voluntary meet, not dating apps, not parent matchmaking... they just happened to bump into each other in the real world and then fall in love... and happily ever after...)

Edit: Also I heard my mom talking on WeChat trying to introduce someone that's like I assume that's her friend/acquaintance's unmarried adult child to another of her friend/acquaintance's adult child who is also unmarried...

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[–] DrBob@lemmy.ca 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Formal matchmaking? Yes, several people. Their marriages are about the same as others, maybe slightly better due to strong social systems and clear expectations about roles. Every marriage waxes and wanes with how partners feel about each other, and the arranged ones aren't any different in that respect.

Informal matchmaking? Lots. This has been the arrangement for much of human history. Consider them pre-vetted without the need to stalk their socials.