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My mum would try and set me up with random girls when I was younger, pressure me to talk to people she wanted me to be in a relationship with, once apparently lied to my classmate's family that we were Jewish or something (i.e I don't know if this was an ethnicity thing or a religion thing and I don't want to know.)
I wouldn't say the other party's parents were complicit in this or even realised it was her intention. Hence why I'm not in an arranged marriage right now.
It's interesting seeing several lonely people online talk about how arranged marriage is a superior system. I don't feel that way right now, but we'll wait and see what I say when I'm older.
I think arranged marriage is more of a "just want a reliable life partner + probably children" type of thing and less of a "true love" type of thing...
My parents are kinda of just partners type of thing... (like I don't see the mainstream media "omg we are soo in love" type of stuff in them...) I don't even think they fuck (besides those two times to procreate), never saw them kiss, or hold hands, or hug... not sure if this is a cultural thing or a lack of romantic love thing
For long period of time when I was a kid, I would sleep in between my parents on their bed... there's no way they could've fucked and they are busy with work during the day...
Like... idk what even is their relationship lol...
Mom threatened divorce a few times when I was a kid (she was the main source of income btw, the "breadwinner"), but they never divorced so there's that...