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Typically, if someone has a body "flaw", they know about it. Lying will quickly be shot down and disregarded. For example, if you tell an overweight person that they are thin, they'll know it's not true, and they won't accept it. Tell them they have a nice butt (if the context is appropriate) and they'll remember and appreciate that.
Avoid making them the direct object in a compliment.
"That outfit makes you look good" implies that they didn't look good until they put on the outfit.
"You are looking good." gives the compliment to the person, not the attire.
Agreed. To expand on this, I'd also add that complementing choices is often better than complimenting their body. Edit: particularly if you don't know them very well.
For example, the "that outfit makes you look good" really is implying they didn't look good before, but also "I love that sweater" is complimenting their stylistic decisions, regardless of what their body looks like.
Focus on the person and their personality, not their biology.
Also "that looks awesome on you" says you and the outfit both look good.