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How do you figure out your identity? (lemmy.world)

submitted 19 hours ago by JayJLeas@lemmy.world to c/asktransgender@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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I know I'm not cis, but that's about it. I'm AFAB, I would like to appear more masculine, I have dysphoria around my chest and genitals and would like them to be more masculine, but I want to present as a femboy or a twink, I don't want facial hair or curves and I want a deeper voice. I like the idea of people not knowing what gender I am when they look at me. But at the same time neither she/her not he/him feel right for me, and I'm happier when people use they/them. Part of me thinks I don't need a label, but at the same time I feel like I need a way do describe and identify myself. Can anyone help? I feel so confused.

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[–] jahtnamas@slrpnk.net 3 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

this sounds a lot like me. AFAB, dysphoric about chest, wants to trans in a masculine direction and fall somewhere in femboy/twink, trying to be "both + neither", etc. etc. i personally call myself "transandrogynous" and an alternate label i know is "transneutral".

[–] JayJLeas@lemmy.world 1 points 14 hours ago

Transandrongynous is pretty cool, maybe I could shorten it to "trandro" (does that sound weird? Fittingly, my phone autocorrected that to reandron)