Imagine if we flipped the tables. If it's all on women to have and raise kids and nothing more, wouldn't that mean a man's job is to get laid/donate sperm, impregnate someone once, and that's it? If that's all there is and he's fulfilled his role, there's no need to stay alive after that. Like a male bee, exploding after mating.

Humans are not bees, you don't rip some lazy bum's dick off as a teen, use it to birth a town of sterile slaves that provide for your every need, and keep using that same sperm for years while birthing over a million babies throughout your life.

From an evolutionary perspective you're successful if you have more children, that have reached breeding age, than the average. Humans today have a pretty good chance of survival no matter if they have both parents of not, so the only factor in that equation is how many children you can make.

So if you actually flip the tables, the man's job in the developed world is to make as many babies, and if he makes less than 3 he's a failure. And they should feel lucky because the guys in Niger/Sudan need to make like 15 or 20 (8-12 is the average).

If you want an animal metaphor instead, think of those jungle birds that spend 99% of their waking time working on breeding (bowyer fe).

Why bother with society, hobbies, learning qand growing?

And following that logic: to make more children to a wide variety of women. Men will literally learn something about every band just so they can hit up women with band merch.

It sounds ridiculous because it is ridiculous. We're all so much more than our biological equipment. I know I'm preaching to the choir here, I just had to rant for a moment.

It sounds ridiculous, it is ridiculous for humans, but that exact process is why we're able to choose not to breed.