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It sounds like youre being limited by your self perception. That's okay. We all are in some way, especially at your age.
The first thing you need to do is turn your intuition inwards. You've put a lot of thought into how others see you but that energy be better spent exploring how you see yourself.
Your judgement of yourself is the most constant presence in your life. Others may come and go. Some may think you look child like, some may disagree vehemently. What's most important is how you see yourself.
The goal is to adjust your perception a little less towards how you look and a little more towards how you feel, because the latter is as if not more important in connecting with another person.
People can tell when a person is feeling confident / secure or scared / vulnerable. It's possible to connect with others in many different states of mind but easier to in the former.
I've met many different men and women in my life. The ones that find it easiest to find companionship are those that feel good about themselves and in some way feel good about the world. The first step is to look within, find what you love about yourself and let that be your window into everything.