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Any single issue you mentioned would be enough to get me to quit going, but the combination of it all is absolutely terrible.
This licensed person's behavior sounds antithetical to treatment. It sounds like it's just stalling progress if not outright going backward. I'm not sure if it's criminal or not but at the very least it's pretty fucked up. It's manipulative behavior and I wonder if this man does this with other patients, and not just you.
You are absolutely right to say when.
Hugs.
It went fucking horribly! Dude wanted to have basically a full session long conversation analyzing why I wanted to leave, and used my life/relationship situation to insinuate I was a bad patient, and that he went out of his way to respond to that with patience. "You're only here so you can keep your partner happy and have a roof over your head." I'm obviously angry, but mostly just shocked that a professional would take a dig at me that way, especislly after 18ish months.
Also yall are getting a copy/paste response cause I wanna make sure everyone who wished me well saw my side of things, and im not thinking straight enough to give individual replies at the moment
That is shitty and manipulative. Ive had one session with a manipulative one too. In just that first session he felt he could tell me what i was feeling, what i wanted, why i was there... the guy barely knew me, and he was quite persuasive. Good thing i was thinking fast enough that day to see through the bullshit.
Glad to see youre getting out of there!
Appreciate it, thanks homie!
don't sweat the reply. It's a lot to go back and reply to everyone sometimes. I get it.
I hope you get the outcome you seek, and get back to talking with someone you feel comfortable with. I need therapy, but haven't found someone I feel ok opening up to, so I know exactly how hard that shit is.
Thanks buddy, appreciate the kind words. Ultimately, im not longer his patient, but it was a much more confrontational talk than I expected. That in and of itself is confirmation that im moving in the right way.
And hell, even if going back to my old therapist doesn't work out, at least I know better what does and doesn't serve me well in a therapeutic environment
You are doing right for yourself. You had the understanding to see that despite whatever issues you are working on that this man was actively harmful. That itself is a good thing. Be proud of that.
Standing up for yourself is good. Being brave enough to do it when dealing with someone who uses another's emotions and words as tools that can actively harm the person seeking help is extra good.
Appreciate the kind words, I'm proud of myself for having went and done it in person too, as shitty as the reaction I got was.