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Breakung up with my therapist in like 45 min and im nervous (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 days ago by corgiwithalaptop@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

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I never really felt much of a connection with this guy, despite sticking it out for over a year with him. Hes very insistent that I take almost 3 hours out of my day to do in person visits and has threatened to charge me as a cancelation if I still demanded virtual, I haven't felt the ability to be honest with him about larger issues than what I discuss, and frankly I would get nervous to talk to him before a lot of sessions. I had a therapist before that I connected with better, but that was 3 years ago almost and I had to stop when I lost my last job.

Im already in the process of getting back with my past therapist, who seemed much warmer to me. When I had to stop seeing her, i cried, whereas with this guy, I'm nervous he'll try to talk me out of dropping him.

On the bus to go do it now, send me your good vibes pls

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[–] microfiche@hexbear.net 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

don't sweat the reply. It's a lot to go back and reply to everyone sometimes. I get it.

I hope you get the outcome you seek, and get back to talking with someone you feel comfortable with. I need therapy, but haven't found someone I feel ok opening up to, so I know exactly how hard that shit is.

[–] corgiwithalaptop@hexbear.net 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Thanks buddy, appreciate the kind words. Ultimately, im not longer his patient, but it was a much more confrontational talk than I expected. That in and of itself is confirmation that im moving in the right way.

And hell, even if going back to my old therapist doesn't work out, at least I know better what does and doesn't serve me well in a therapeutic environment

[–] microfiche@hexbear.net 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

You are doing right for yourself. You had the understanding to see that despite whatever issues you are working on that this man was actively harmful. That itself is a good thing. Be proud of that.

Standing up for yourself is good. Being brave enough to do it when dealing with someone who uses another's emotions and words as tools that can actively harm the person seeking help is extra good.

comrade-fly

[–] corgiwithalaptop@hexbear.net 2 points 1 day ago

Appreciate the kind words, I'm proud of myself for having went and done it in person too, as shitty as the reaction I got was.