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Hi, I've got a date in a few days with a lovely trans woman whom I've not met before but chat online and talk with on the phone. I'd like to know if there are any faux paus in general that I should avoid.

I have reassured her that I unequivocally see her a woman, that I strongly support trans and LGBTQ rights.

For context I'm a bisexual cis man. She's pre-op but looking to get hormone replacement therapy. She doesn't seem to have dysmorphia about her nether bits, but does have dysmorphia from the negative social stigma. I didn't press too much about it as I didn't want to make her feel uncomfortable. I also shared some personal details to put her at ease about my identity so she knows I'm not just a creep.

She very much seems into me though, and is very open to talk sexually as well which I find as a good sign as it indicates very open communication.

Thanks for any advice!

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[–] heyWhatsay@slrpnk.net 15 points 4 weeks ago

Just focus on getting to know each other, besides the gender stuff