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God. This is exactly the bullshit my dad pulled on me when he tried convincing me it was reasonable for him to not gender me correctly.
transphobia, homophobia
His argument was that ahem being trans is bad because if you're trans you won't be accepted by society, therefore you will seek validation. You will find validation from gay people, and they're gonna turn you gay, which is a sin.Which honestly has to be my favorite transphobia of all time. It feels like it should win an award of some kind. I repeated this back to him basically verbatim and he said I strawmanned him lol. Like you can't just claim strawman when you realize how fucking absurd your take is ๐ญ
And like, the obvious solution here is for your dad to just accept you ans then he doesn't have to worry about all of that. (Aside from the solution where you are unbothered by someone's sexuality since it really doesn't matter who a person is into and the world is gonna keep on spinning even if your kid turns out gay.)
Idk maybe I'm jaded or maybe I'm too autistic for this shit but I'd much rather if someone just tells me to my face that they don't like queer people than trying to come up with tortured justifications like that. Obviously it's different for people that you are close to but trying to navigate all those mental gymnastics is exhausting to me.
Anyway, keep at it and good luck with it. Your dad obviously cares for you which is a really important basis to work from. He's also willing to talk it through with you so that's a good sign. I hope that he's willing to put in the work to become the dad you deserve, one who cares for you and genuinely appreciates you for who you are. It sounds like there's a long road ahead before you get to that point but I'm wishing you all the best with this.