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dealing with impulsive yapping/being rude and volume control? (pawb.social)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by ollie@pawb.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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cross-posted from: https://pawb.social/post/37056794

i tend to be a bit of a yapper, very loud (theres an interesting reverse-masking thing going on there, which if anyones interested, lmk and ill explain) and tend to be quite rude.

really inside, im a quiet person, but i tend to impulsively speak and be loud, and say things i dont really want to say, e.g. being rude.

these are things i really want to deal with. when i talk less, and be quieter like i am inside, i tend to be much happier. does anyone have any tips?

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[–] JohnnyEnzyme@piefed.social 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

(theres an interesting reverse-masking thing going on there, which if anyones interested, lmk and ill explain)

I'll bite!

[–] ollie@pawb.social 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

pre covid, i was a (very young, just at a local kids stage school) theatre kid. i was naturally loud and yappy, quite stereotypical really. over covid, butmainly after around 2023-2024 has been an extremely big point for the development of my personality

now, i was used to people seeing this loud and frankly annoying version of me, and i was used to being it, so i end up reverse-masking bif thatmakes sense because people can be very judgemental to me of any change (and my family wonders why i dont tell them about things lol)

so habitually, i continue to be loud and annoying

[–] solrize@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Were you infected with covid? That could have changed something. Also do you mean something like compulsive talking?

[–] ollie@pawb.social 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

yes it can be very similar to that sometimes!

i did get covid (thrice) but this happened a while after even the last infection, i think its just been a very developmntal couple of years either way and ive learned lots about myself