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[–] Bruncvik@lemmy.world 8 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

I guess I'm a bit old-fashioned. I still put two spaces after a full stop.

But I digress. The question was about other unwritten rules of texting. Over the past year, it's become frowned upon at my company (a multinational with around 130k employees) to use the default yellow emoticons. People are gently reminded to use the colour that most closely resembles their skin. This is for conversations over Teams and Slack.

[–] __Lost__@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

My mom uses the white smiley faces and I always feel like they are vaguely racist.

[–] human@slrpnk.net 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I have conflicted feelings about it.

On one hand, I can see how in some circles it could be some sort of racist dog whistle, but on the other hand when a lot of people are using other skin tones and it's mostly white people using yellow, it feels almost like default = white, and using the white skin tone pushes back on that a little.

[–] SreudianFlip@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Two spaces as a convention is due to the monospaced fonts in typewriters.

If you aren't using a monospaced font it's typographically awkward.

[–] Bruncvik@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

That's where I learned to type, and the double-space is so ingrained in my muscle memory I can't get rid of it. I also used to use lower case "L" for the number one, and upper case "O" for zero. I don't do the former, but occasionally I catch myself doing the latter.

[–] MutilationWave@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 2 weeks ago

I was taught double space after a period. I did it for almost 20 years until I forced myself to change.

[–] snooggums@piefed.world 7 points 2 weeks ago

Being told they must match the skin of their emojis sounds kinda racist.

[–] NewNewAugustEast@lemmy.zip 6 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Those would be emojis not emoticons.

I miss emoticons. I am so done with emojis.

As to the subject you posted about color, that is crazy.

[–] Bruncvik@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Those would be emojis not emoticons.

Thanks. I never knew the distinction between the two. These emojis are usually used as reactions in our company to indicate you read a post, are investigating, giving kudos, etc. We actually have an entire document in Confluence specifying which ones to use, for which reactions.

[–] NewNewAugustEast@lemmy.zip 3 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

We actually have an entire document in Confluence specifying which ones to use, for which reactions

Well I guess that stops ambiguity. There was a discussion here about people taking emojis the wrong way. Get ahead of the problems I guess.

I stopped using thumbs up, and started using check marks to acknowledge its done or I know.

You should copy your work and put out a reference webpage. I don't think many businesses are as far ahead as you I would think.

[–] Bruncvik@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

You are absolutely correct about the ambiguity and problematic emojis. The trigger issue was the usage of hearts as "kudos" reactions. That's where we use the thumbs-up emojis now.

The idea of a reference webpage is a good one, but with Slack allowing you to upload your own emojis (and us using some -- such as the Piccard facepalm and "modern solutions" meme), we'd have to be very careful to show only the default ones.

[–] MutilationWave@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 weeks ago

Speaking as an elder millennial, the thumbs up has always felt dismissive over text messages but not in other contexts.