My understanding was the disengage rule didn't apply if you were using it in a way that would give you the last word in an argument. Your exact phrasing was "you can simply disengage." If you keep "offering" rather than asking for disengagement, you won't get it.

[–] CoolerOpposide@hexbear.net 1 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Well the actual exact phrasing of the last thing I said was

”Stop haranguing me, leave me alone. Block me or disengage with me.”

on a comment where I made no argument for or against any point other than pointing out their incessant arguing with me was a waste of time and why I had already asked for it to stop several times. To this, they replied condescendingly and continued being a debatebro about the argument I told them to stop directing at me, making this now the second post I’ve asked for them to disengage with me about this argument on.

The user then went on to bring the topic of having had this argument with me on a third post. Then they were giving a temporary ban, and it wasn’t even from me.

Honestly I don’t know how it could have been more clear than that

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

So I was wrong about the rule? Maybe we need a general clarifying post because I’ve never seen anyone offer disengagement as an option and someone else get banned as a result. posts that say “disengage” without commentary is usually how I’ve seen it.

[–] CoolerOpposide@hexbear.net -1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

If the so-called options being provided are verbatim “Block me or disengage with me.” I frankly don’t think we need clarification on whether or not you are being asked to disengage.

[–] SickSemper@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Good to know, because I’ve seen mods take harder lines on the disengage rule than this. Glad to have a standard to point to going forward

[–] CoolerOpposide@hexbear.net 1 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

This isn’t a standard for moderation, nor was it moderated out of line. It’s a human interaction, and each of them are unique situations, dealt with by mods who aren’t a hive mind.

The point is that it should be clear when somebody is telling you to disengage and leave them alone. If you have to even think about whether or not they are requesting that you disengage with them, completely outside of my capacity as a moderator, I’d recommend you simply stop engaging at that point. At the very least you are wasting your own time. Likewise, if you think you’ve asked earnestly and didn’t receive a disengagement, you can ask the mods by reporting the questionable content post-disengagement request and giving the additional info.