Loving someone while not condoning their actions? (lemmy.world)

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Straightforward: my 29-year-old son is dating a 16-year-old girl he met at a jazz festival this summer. Openly. He had a same age long-term girlfriend until last year, when they broke up amicably. We really loved her, she was basically our daughter-in-law and we’re still in touch. His current girlfriend’s parents know about their relationship & are cool with it. For the record: it’s also legal in our country. We don’t think it’s right though, he’s a grown ass man while she’s a high schooler. He’s also very successful professionally, handsome, takes good care of himself, has a good personality, etc. so it’s not like he’s lacking options. He just says he likes her - that’s his why. He’s not a bad person, I know that, but still this whole situation has changed our perception of him quite a bit. We’re having a rough time to say the least.

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[-] Sop@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 2 weeks ago

It’s gross because the only reason a 29 yr old adult would have a relationship ship with a 16 yr old is because the 16 yr old is easy to manipulate. A 29 yr old and a 16 yr old have no life experiences in common, the whole relationship relies on the inequal power dynamic. The fact that he chose to have a relationship with a 16 yr old is already proof that he’s taking advantage because any sensible adult that cares about the wellbeing of the 16 yr old would never do that.

[-] tomi000@lemmy.world -1 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

What the actual fuck. Do you actually believe you can speak for 8 billion people? How entitled can one be...

No 2 people have the same experience in life. Simply having lived for the same amount of time has no impact whatsoever on your personality and behaviour. How would that define your whole being? What you are saying would basically mean people from different cultures cant be a couple because they have no common ground. Should we ban that?

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