The third one (and for most people it's probably it, in fact you could technically make the second one a subcategory of the third one, as narcissism is a condition of the mind, and no, professional analysis dismisses the idea I am a narcissist despite the fact many people seem born ready to leap to that conclusion based on the idea the room seems not to be read alongside some elements of pride I carry) brings up something that even as a technical neurotypical (depends on the definition) I don't get. If a social rule is so important, why does society keep it "unspoken"? I can't imagine God for example being like "well, these rules are important, but instead of giving you these rules on Mt. Sinai, I'm just going to have faith in you on this one" (going back to the narcissism part, I'd argue that to me, leaving it "to the norms" comes off as more what I would expect from a "narcissistic" individual, I guess Socrates isn't welcome in our society). Of course, the other things are not out of the question, and there's a bit of nuance omitted (it's where my experiences diverge from my BF's, in fact I phrased it with my BF in mind), but nothing deceptive,