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We got a new furnace and the super old one was basically just as good. Get a good carbon monoxide alarm for your bedroom and also one right by the machine.

Sounds similar to my mental chatter about our house.

No one I know knows about this website yet, but I might delete some identifying comments in the future because I have faith they might one day.

He is not a pediatrician but is in Family Medicine. Still, I have a friend who is in pediatrics and even she is not as intense. She actually has a copy of a recording I took of him yelling at me and he said all those things I mentioned in it. The language definitely gave me pause, it was so toxic. Things are otherwise back to normal. I told my friend I am not compromising and not going to raise my current child differently because of hope for future children.

I really do think it is all normal. I think doctors also hear a very small glimpse into other people’s lives. I am sure a lot of people tell him their kids are sleeping fine. I have also seen his coworker, who says their kid sleeps through the night, let their kid cry in their crib while they swam in a pool. It just isn’t for me. I am told I am too responsive but I see them all as not responsive enough.

The military is such a problem. My other friend says he is taking out work stress on me. They are so demanding of him he doesn’t really have a lot of energy at home. Still not an excuse to behave the way he did. Also I feel like that is why we need to go by how I raise the more because I am home more. He is about to leave for a couple months and that has happened multiple times already… so of course our kid is needy to me and I am responsive to him.

Anyways, thank you. You are not coming off too strong. It was an intense situation and your response to it feels like how I felt, so it’s nice to hear.

Thank you for your thoughtful response. I believe that is just how it is as well.

We have been having a variation of this argument since our child has been old enough to be sleep trained. He is very for cry it out and I am very not for it. Therefore the reason why he wakes up at night is because I answer his cries.

The problem with the “If your doctor isn’t concerned” part is that my husband IS a doctor. So whichever way he decides is the right way, is the right way. It’s endlessly frustrating. I was a nanny for years before this, but I am not considered the authority on childcare in our relationship. I believe this is fully a relationship issue and not a sleep issue.

He also told me if I go in the room to get our kid he will not have more kids with me. I went in to get him.

But our kid is doing pretty good with sleep in my opinion! He wakes up once a night usually and I have to help him back to sleep, takes a few minutes. He stays on his own floor bed until the sun comes up and sometimes I can get him to nap in my bed for a bit. He goes to bed so late though, but he isn’t a terror. I am up anyways.

For a bit it was so hard for me too and I did go on medication as well. I was considering going back on them this week after what happened with my neighbor passing last week. To have that weaponized against me is so cruel. Rough week.

Anyways, I wish we lived in a group where everyone helped each other a little more. It’s been a lot. We are military and moved in the last year so it is really just me and him and this child. Thank you for making a community on here and giving me a place to write essays.

My husband is very upset that our child doesn’t sleep better and thinks it is my fault. He apparently should be always sleeping through the night and also sleeping way longer than he does. Our kid is not two yet.

So that was a big fight this weekend. He told me I should go on meds so I can handle hearing our kid cry more. Not happening.

But today was better. We got a blackstone grill and also went to chick fil a. They have this thing where you can surrender your phone to them while you eat and if you do you get a free ice cream. I got the free ice cream and me and my child shared it. Highlight of my day.

I agree with all this… it could work.

I have a million things she said running through my mind. I think I have to write a letter.

Well, when we moved about a year ago there happened to be a daycare on the corner. My child was pretty scared of strangers so we started going over there together. The lady who ran it was a lovely 75 year old lady. She let me sit and hold him until he got comfortable. It took months. She never judged me. I was just there on Thursday and Friday. It was so nice to have her to talk to.

Yesterday we heard screaming and ran out to find her daughter hysterical. Her mom had passed in her sleep. I have not been great. I don’t really have a lot of friends here and my child really loved her. I did too.

So rough week for the family here.

The first three letters of this first and last name spell Isa Car. Is a car.

My husband has a four day weekend. We were surprised by a bunch of cows at the park nearby. We have had milkshakes two days in a row. My kid wakes up asking for them, so we have created a monster.

I mean the whole house shouldn’t rot from normal bathroom moisture and hopefully their attic is ventilated but for sure the mold problem isn’t going to go away from that solution. Some people don’t see mold as a problem because they aren’t sensitive or allergic to it themselves.

Since being on here I have seen more photos of what is going on. And that is great. We need to be informed. But Also, your kids whole world is so small to them and they need a present parent, right now. It doesn’t matter what is distracting you, try to bring yourself back to focusing on the task of tuning into them as much as you can. Who knows what positive influence that will have in the future, but it is something you can do to help the future world right now.