parenting

No one I know knows about this website yet, but I might delete some identifying comments in the future because I have faith they might one day.

He is not a pediatrician but is in Family Medicine. Still, I have a friend who is in pediatrics and even she is not as intense. She actually has a copy of a recording I took of him yelling at me and he said all those things I mentioned in it. The language definitely gave me pause, it was so toxic. Things are otherwise back to normal. I told my friend I am not compromising and not going to raise my current child differently because of hope for future children.

I really do think it is all normal. I think doctors also hear a very small glimpse into other people’s lives. I am sure a lot of people tell him their kids are sleeping fine. I have also seen his coworker, who says their kid sleeps through the night, let their kid cry in their crib while they swam in a pool. It just isn’t for me. I am told I am too responsive but I see them all as not responsive enough.

The military is such a problem. My other friend says he is taking out work stress on me. They are so demanding of him he doesn’t really have a lot of energy at home. Still not an excuse to behave the way he did. Also I feel like that is why we need to go by how I raise the more because I am home more. He is about to leave for a couple months and that has happened multiple times already… so of course our kid is needy to me and I am responsive to him.

Anyways, thank you. You are not coming off too strong. It was an intense situation and your response to it feels like how I felt, so it’s nice to hear.