Butt crayon.

We can do both. The problem is the people that believe certain people don't "deserve" help.

"bent out of shape over something you can't even remember"

I'm pretty sure he probably remembers he's been circumcised whenever he goes to the bathroom, takes a shower, changes his underwear...

If a person is drugged or blackout drunk is it ok to rape them if they don't remember?

Is it ok for a parent to put tattoos on their child if they get it done while the baby is young enough not to remember?

Someone can come to terms with a situation and still be allowed to be angry about it.

As a massage therapist that used to work in education (director of education at a massage school and taught anatomy/pathology) results will vary wildly across the States. The majority of states only started licensing in the last 10-15 years, and of course requirements for licensing and supervision varies. Some schools teach enough anatomy to get their students to pass the tests, then focus their time teaching spa type massage (aromatherapy, wraps, hot stones, etc.) or energy work. Not saying there's anything wrong with that, but it serves a different purpose.

There are definitely schools that exist that focus more on therapeutic/rehabilitative work, but even then the challenge is finding a therapist with an up to date approach who doesn't buy the old school "no pain no gain" who kicks the shit out of you. Massage shouldn't hurt. But if your find the right therapist for you, they're worth their weight in gold.

There's an actual quality true crime podcast called Crime Junkie, and an associated podcast specifically dedicated to cold cases called The Deck. It's a whole thing for some people, but occasionally a listener hits on something and makes a phone call that gets the ball rolling again.

I listen because I find it interesting, but that's the extent of it. Some people it's truly a hobby, or more to chase information down.

Boy I wish someone would have shared this with me when I was working 2 jobs, struggling to afford rent, raising teenagers, and getting home at 11pm when I had to get up at 6:30am. If I would have just worked a little harder...

I appreciate that you're trying to be helpful, but it feels like telling a depressed person to just eat right and exercise and they'll get over it.

When I've seen this I've wondered if the dog got into some wet concrete, tar, or something irreversibly damaging to their coat.

You don't even need to heat the plastic for the sauce to stain it. Fats want to bond with plastics, making plastics harder to clean + tomato sauce is awesome at staining. Heating might make it worse, but it's not necessary.

While I get your point, it didn't read as supportive to me. To me it read as a statement of "this is what I observed" not "this is my judgement of the kind of person he is."

Like if someone asked me what kind of person a coworker was. If my answer was "I saw them do their job" it can be a factual statement of my experience and really, isn't necessarily helpful. It just means I didn't witness them doing anything bad.

Edit - rereading as someone just posted a copy of the letter. While I can see some focus on positive interactions with his daughter, it still strikes me as a factual "this is what I observed" and far less the emotional supportive standpoint that bled through from some of the other letters that were submitted.

I think that was a smartly written letter from the standpoint that he told the truth of his observations from his perspective, but made no attempt to sway opinion of Danny's character. Under the circumstances if you really feel compelled to submit a letter, it's the honest way of doing it.

Buying in a lower cost of living area is easier when you don't have to consider things like school districts for children, availability of public transportation to get to work, or even safe walkable areas to get groceries.

As an older Gen-Xer, who had married another older Xer far too young (because we were brought up that all we needed to do was get a job and life would be awesome) I can agree that some in my age range are definitely watered down boomers. Which is also a fair part of the reason why he's my ex husband now.

As the mother of 3 Gen Z sons, I couldn't be more proud of the amazing men they're becoming, and couldn't be more disgusted about the conditions that some of my generation and those before me have created for them.