Aviandelight

joined 2 years ago
[–] Aviandelight@mander.xyz 163 points 2 months ago (13 children)

Okay I'm choosing violence on this one so downvote away if you must. This is not an American thing, it's a patriarchy thing. We are conditioned and constantly reinforced with the idea that sex is about subjugation and not intimacy in our language and culture. All my life I've heard phrases like "suck my dick/balls" used as an insult across all genders and then when I am expected to perform such acts in the context of a loving relationship my brain outright refuses to associate that with an act of love and my partner acts all surprise Pikachu about it. The patriarchy and our common language insists that sex is bad at the detriment and isolation of everyone. Men in particular are isolated and conditioned to never give/receive love or even recognize their emotions with the only consolation being that they are given permission to subjugate women. And so the culture persists through our own unwitting actions as people are impeded from ever fully connecting with each other in perfect love and perfect trust. It's shit like this that keeps the patriarchy in control and us under control.

[–] Aviandelight@mander.xyz 8 points 2 months ago

Functionally yes mentally and emotionally no. I just got word this week that our bosses are taking away our hybrid work schedule and making us come back into the office full time. I like my work and coworkers well enough but it's not enough to keep me in an employer that's abusive. Now all I can think about is the next round of surprise layoffs that are sure to follow. Last year was absolute hell always feeling watched and expendable. This year is looking to much of the same. I'm already looking for another job and kicking myself in the butt for putting it off for so long.

[–] Aviandelight@mander.xyz 15 points 2 months ago

I don't think you have misophonia. Misophonia is where you have an irrational stress/anger response to certain types of sounds. These sounds set off your fight or flight response. My personal triggers are eating noises and dogs drinking water. I don't make that my partner's problem though. I think your partner is being inconsiderate and the constant loud noises are overstimulating for you. You obviously need quiet time to recharge/concentrate and your partner is trying to drown the world out. The whole situation sounds unhealthy and unless you both are willing to work on the underlying issues together it will only get worse.

[–] Aviandelight@mander.xyz 20 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I agree. A small part of me was sad to hear of the loss of the architecture but I'm also happy for the people who see this as a celebration. There are things in this world that should not last forever.

[–] Aviandelight@mander.xyz 5 points 2 months ago

Knitting, laundry, and gaming cat

[–] Aviandelight@mander.xyz 7 points 2 months ago

To be fair this sounds dope.

[–] Aviandelight@mander.xyz 7 points 2 months ago

Can confirm myself, my mother, and my maternal grandmother all have the same middle name. Call it a southern thing I suppose. I killed the tradition by being childess and my younger sister refused to pass it to my niece.

[–] Aviandelight@mander.xyz 5 points 2 months ago

This whole thread is glorious. (Also did your autocorrect put up a fight or did it completely give up trying. I'd love it if this is how we fight AI in the future.)

[–] Aviandelight@mander.xyz 5 points 2 months ago

I've been a participant of the PPMI study for a few years now and this year they changed up the quarterly survey to include questions about chemical exposure. This article makes that change make a bit more sense now. Coincidentally a lot of chemicals I used in the lab were on the survey too. https://www.ppmi-info.org/

[–] Aviandelight@mander.xyz 27 points 2 months ago

Which is fucking hilarious because most private industries that are safety conscious use FAA regulations as the gold standard to build theirs against.

[–] Aviandelight@mander.xyz 12 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I thought he looked like an anatomy specimen. It's kinda freaky seeing that outside of a lab.

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