“I’ve never experienced it so you must just be imagining it” pretty much describes the conflict of every issue out there, from race to mental illness. Hell, even things like homelessness.
There's also the "I have suffered it and therefore everyone else must suffer it as well"
Don't forget "I've suffered it and it wasn't that bad so don't pretend it is"
Which actually means "I've pretended to suffer it and you are probably too".
"I experienced racism. I was called a potato once and seriously, it wasn't as bad as all the n* pretend it is. Get over it."
exactly. empathy is the ability to realize other people have different experiences than you. to think about what it's actaully like to be homeless.
but people think it means 'just agree with me and make me feel good, and if i feel bad for people i am a good person'
Weird, this pulled more down votes than a lot of the posts around it.
I wonder why.
You ask that ... on the internet...?
Reporter: [REDACTED]
Reason: it's pizzacake
Some people don’t know how to click downvote and move on with their day,
or make a comment,
or unsubscribe,
or make their own c/ComicsExceptPizzaCake community.
Some people have to talk to the manager and waste my time.
Am I out of the loop?
Why don't people like Pizzacake?
To summarise the discourse:
The artist makes boring unfunny comics and posts them to Reddit.
The comics always seem to have tons of upvotes, every time.
People question why they are allegedly so popular when they are boring and accuse her of buying upvotes.
Artist then responds with misandrist drama comics about how all these evil men are out to get her.
Everything becomes toxic as incels come out of the woodwork to attack her and feminists defend her comics in response.
Everyone is too busy with their upvote/downvote wars to remember that the comics are actually garbage.
Damm, I didn’t know there were people with such a hateboner for pizzacake. Her stuff is not top shelf comedy but they tend to give me a chuckle consistently.
> Posts generic comic
> Comments are abusive
> Makes comic about abusive comments
> Abusers claim comic is abusive toward them
Uh huh.
I legitimately don't understand how a man can be blind to this kind of treatment of women. Don't you just need to look at any treatment of women online for more than a nanosecond and you'll see this?
My hypothesis is it's two major parts:
For most people, belief is more social than we'd like to admit. So if your in-groups are a bunch of jerks who think women "talk too much" or whatever, you'll probably adopt that. It'll be continually reinforced from your socializing. Then with point #1, any time contrary evidence that does manage to break through you'll reject it rather than doing any hard work or introspection.
Why? You should teach the same things to your son at the least for empathy , the most for prevension.
one thing i've noticed, is that when you get into less moderated, harder to moderate, and less centralized services, particularly anti-censorship ones, you get a lot of shitty people congregating there. And the reason why is pretty simple, it's because you can. Some of it is probably just edgy shitposting, because, internet. Some of it is also just genuine, because again, the internet.
So you get this weird thing where it fractures heavily, into to small communal groups, that each do their own thing. But you have a broad group of outliers, who generally exist outside of this space also, which means that it tends to be rather hit and miss what you find.
This is one of the reasons i really like the darknet conceptually. Yes there may be racism there, but you know what else isn't there? Rules, and you know what that means? People can make their own however they please. Don't like it? Go away, simple as that.
r/TalesFromYourServer: Kicking a Nazi out as soon as they walk in
I was at a shitty crustpunk bar once getting an after-work beer. One of those shitholes where the bartenders clearly hate you. So the bartender and I were ignoring one another when someone sits next to me and he immediately says, "no. get out."
And the dude next to me says, "hey i'm not doing anything, i'm a paying customer." and the bartender reaches under the counter for a bat or something and says, "out. now." and the dude leaves, kind of yelling. And he was dressed in a punk uniform, I noticed
Anyway, I asked what that was about and the bartender was like, "you didn't see his vest but it was all nazi shit. Iron crosses and stuff. You get to recognize them."
And i was like, ohok and he continues.
"you have to nip it in the bud immediately. These guys come in and it's always a nice, polite one. And you serve them because you don't want to cause a scene. And then they become a regular and after awhile they bring a friend. And that dude is cool too.
And then THEY bring friends and the friends bring friends and they stop being cool and then you realize, oh shit, this is a Nazi bar now. And it's too late because they're entrenched and if you try to kick them out, they cause a PROBLEM. So you have to shut them down.
And i was like, 'oh damn.' and he said "yeah, you have to ignore their reasonable arguments because their end goal is to be terrible, awful people."
And then he went back to ignoring me. But I haven't forgotten that at all.
The biggest mistake new moderators make is allowing bad actors to use the rules against them. You can't be too prescriptive, you can't give them ammo to go "well this doesn't technically violate any rule." And when they complain you have a "don't disrupt the community" rule and say it's "too vague" just tag them as potentially a problem and see what they do. In my experience, they inevitably deserve a ban.
Teach your son those things too.
Well that definitely escalated.
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