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[-] TAG@lemmy.world 130 points 10 months ago

Sorry to poo poo the wholesomeness, but you should not be selling your possessions to buy an engagement ring. You should be buying a ring that is within your income to afford. An engagement ring is definitely one of those "it's the thought that counts" purchases. If it is not, that is a massive red flag.

[-] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 48 points 10 months ago

But they had a PS4, wanted an engagement ring instead and sold the PS4 for money they could use to buy the ring. Seems... fine to me? You don't have to hold on to everything you own.

[-] akilou@sh.itjust.works 12 points 10 months ago

Completely agree. Plus, with a wife, who has time for Playstation anyway

[-] Zekas@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago

With a wife you get an extra controller silly

[-] WillFord27@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago

My girlfriend passes my progress in any game I introduce her to. She's twice the gamer I am :/

[-] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 3 points 9 months ago

My 4yo can kick my ass in Smash. What have I created? What have I become???

[-] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 4 points 10 months ago

You don't have to spend that much for a ring if just wanting a ring is your concern. You can get a ring for like 20$ on amazon if having one is all you care about. If he didn't want the PS4 anymore why buy him another one?

[-] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

You don't have to even get a ring but he clearly wanted one and could afford the one he wanted by selling his PS4. Again, seems fine to me.

If he didn't want the PS4 anymore why buy him another one?

Maybe he liked playing it but wanted to get her a ring more? Seems simple enough to me...

[-] stillitcomes@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

A bias I've noticed on a lot of social media is that a lot of people tend to assume video games are either 0 importance or heavy importance in people's lives. Like if he gave up his console, it must mean that he sacrificed his dearest hobby for her and that's why it's bad. In reality it's just as likely it was something he used a couple times a month and gave up for something more important.

[-] BrerChicken@lemmy.world 16 points 10 months ago

I mean you shouldn't sell your car, but selling what amounts to a toy, in order to buy a bit nicer ring than you can afford, is a good way to get some extra cash AND show that you're in it to win it.

[-] Maalus@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

Emm no. It's an empty gesture in a system that hijacked it to say "more expensive more love". Don't buy an expensive ring, period.

[-] KevonLooney@lemm.ee 0 points 10 months ago

This is an item that might be used every day for the rest of your life (even beyond your life). You wouldn't spring for a slightly better one? Moissanite exists, as do lab diamonds if you want to go cheaper and look the same.

Definitely pay more than $500 for something that may outlast you. If you or your spouse doesn't like the ring because it's cheap, that's a worse deal that spending thousands on something that you actually use.

Imagine a ring that costs $10K that is worn every day for 10 years. It looks amazing. $2.74 per time worn. Now imagine a ring that costs $500 that's only worn once a month for sentimental value. Over 10 years that's $4.17 per time worn. It's more expensive because you don't like wearing it.

[-] Maalus@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

No, I wouldn't buy a ring at all, since rings are a cashgrab.

I can also imagine the 10k invested into something actually useful instead of a futile gesture. Imagine being pragmatic and not buying a trinket by selling your other belongings.

There is no reason to buy a 10k ring.

[-] KevonLooney@lemm.ee 0 points 10 months ago

All luxury items are a "cashgrab". You don't have to buy any of them. If you wouldn't buy one at all, why are you commenting? I don't wear a watch, but I also don't go on threads about watches and say "I wouldn't buy a watch at all".

Forget about money, I think you need to invest your time better.

[-] Maalus@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

I'm commenting because I can, and you can't make me not comment. I can voice my opinion, you can do with it what you will, other than prevent me from saying stuff

[-] TheDannysaur@lemmy.world 12 points 10 months ago

I mean it can be both right? Maybe the ring he could afford isn't the ring he wanted to give. And he regarded the ring higher than his own PS4. Could have been fully his own decision.

Now if she DEMANDED a ring of a certain value, of course... But I think we can look for the wholesome explanation here.

[-] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 9 points 10 months ago

Yeah lol. I have two that I use and both together cost about as much as a single game. One is literally just steel.

[-] Fiivemacs@lemmy.ca 8 points 10 months ago

Hell....skip the whole weird church and contract junk and just don't get married. Save the money completely. Have a BBQ with friends. Marriage does nothing but waste money

[-] edgemaster72@lemmy.world 27 points 10 months ago

Or get married at a courthouse for the tax breaks without all the overpriced bullshit of a "traditional" wedding

[-] jol@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 10 months ago

People usually still get rings at those.

[-] Damdy@lemmy.world 11 points 10 months ago

I agree on the whole, but marriage was something from life I wanted to experience. Treating my friends and family to a great party was worth it. Although, mine was probably ten times cheaper than most.

[-] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 10 months ago

i mean you can have parties for basically free, the point is that the standard wedding is made to milk people for money.

if you want a wedding just hit up a catering company and head to some park or something, and get a second hand wedding dress or just a reasonable normal dress.

[-] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 3 points 10 months ago

Marriage is more a contract than it is a religious thing

[-] Riven@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Agreed, I actually got my fiancee this bell as an engagement bell. She's really into cats and loves it.

[-] Noodle07@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago

When you marry a Namazu

[-] shootwhatsmyname@lemm.ee 4 points 10 months ago

can also double as an engagement ring too

[-] pelerinli@lemmy.world 0 points 10 months ago

In stable economies, for above poors.

[+] Anticorp@lemmy.world -7 points 10 months ago

Fuck that. An engagement ring is something she'll have for the rest of her life. You will never be able to give her an engagement ring for the first time again. Stretch a little. Show her how much she means to you. Yes, it's materialistic, but it's also important to most women.

[-] funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 7 points 10 months ago

We picked our own because we each have to wear it every day, might as well like it. Been together a decade, married for 6 years. Sometimes big sweping "romantic" gestures are for the movies.

[-] Anticorp@lemmy.world -4 points 10 months ago

Yeah my wife saw her ring before I paid for it. But I still spent a decent amount of money for it. I sold my paid off car and financed a used car to pay for her ring. I don't regret it one bit. We've been married for a decade and a half and she still adores her ring. Different people are different though, and you should know what kind of person you're proposing to, long before you propose. My wedding ring was $30 on Amazon. LOL. It's just a titanium jobbie that works perfectly for me.

[-] Default_Defect@midwest.social 4 points 10 months ago

An engagement ring is something she’ll have for the rest of her life

The rest of the marriage**

[-] Cyberbatman@lemmings.world 47 points 10 months ago

Little did she know that PS5 has been out for years

[-] phoneymouse@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago

Should’ve got a PS5 to account for interest

[-] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 1 points 10 months ago

The guy could've then sold that for a wedding ring

[-] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 16 points 10 months ago

is it wholesome to make unwise financial decisions to conform to arbitrary social standards? feels more wholesome to enjoy playing together on the playstation instead, you can get really pretty oxidized titanium rings for basically nothing.

[-] 0ops@lemm.ee 8 points 10 months ago

Maybe they just liked the ring? They're adults. If they wanna follow arbitrary social standards, that's their choice

[-] verity_kindle@sh.itjust.works 7 points 10 months ago

This is such a strange photo to attach to a tweet, though. The one on the left shows the husband's right hand in a unnatural position with the thumb all messed up. In the photo on the right, both hands look normal, resting on the game console box. His face is utterly blank. Could this be an AI generated tweet or post?

[-] poppy@lemm.ee 17 points 10 months ago

In the left photo he is holding his phone in his right hand close to his face, taking a picture of the gifts.

[-] elauso@feddit.de 5 points 10 months ago

Also who writes "happy birthday husband" in a public tweet?

[-] dangblingus@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 10 months ago

PS4 had PT on it, thats how he afforded the engagement ring.

[-] Fenrisulfir@lemmy.ca 2 points 10 months ago

She couldn’t afford a ps5?

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