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transcription: transgender ambulance driver whose pronouns are we/you/we/you/we/you

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[–] potatobro@lemmy.blahaj.zone 50 points 13 hours ago (1 children)
[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 23 points 12 hours ago (2 children)
[–] zikzak025@lemmy.world 8 points 11 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Nasan@sopuli.xyz 8 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO BEAT HIM NOW!!

[–] Snowcano@startrek.website 3 points 5 hours ago

God damn, I’m so happy people remember this movie!

[–] GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 44 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

I met a non-binary prospector once. They said "there's gold in them/there hills!"

[–] CombatWombat@feddit.online 14 points 13 hours ago (4 children)

What happens if I actually tried to claim you/yours pronouns (assuming I managed to convince anyone I was doing it in good faith)?

[–] kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 8 hours ago

I've been thinking about calling into one of those debate shows that asks for your pronouns and then makes fun of people who don't know what pronouns are. When they asked for my pronouns, I'd say I/me. When they asked what to call me, I'd switch to you/you. When they specified third person pronouns, I'd accuse them of wanting to talk about me behind my back. Just be as frustrating as possible without technically being wrong. I feel like it would be a fun break in between all of the flat earthers, racists, antivaxxers, and so on.

[–] eupraxia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

one of three things, depending on who you're talking to - either they'd use it with some awkwardness at first, but after repeated use it'd get easier. Or they'd default to they/them (ideally) or gendered pronouns based on your appearance. (much less ideally)

But this type of thing isn't something people commonly do, even among those who use neopronouns, and doesn't make much sense as a gender identity, so the convincing would be the hard part.

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 24 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

I am become second person, destroyer of conversation understandability

[–] caurvo@aussie.zone 1 points 1 hour ago

You would not believe the dream you had last night. Your dream was about how you started talking to you about your pronouns, but you didn't realize that you were really you all along. You really woke yourself up to how your choices impacted the world around you.

[–] waldfee@feddit.org 12 points 12 hours ago

People couldn't talk behind your back anymore, they'd always have to include you in their conversations to be able to refer to you

[–] Turret3857@infosec.pub 5 points 13 hours ago

this is the same joke about the Wii u but genders

[–] snoons@lemmy.ca 3 points 12 hours ago

That's the sound The Transagenda Priest makes when they turn big, masculine men into cute little femboys.