What's your derby name?!
I used to play before covid, but haven't gone back since. I still miss it, but I haven't gone back (yet?)
this post was submitted on 20 Sep 2026
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I just started and I don't know what name nor number to pick yet.
I hope you keep us all updated! I can live vicariously through you! :)
Here's a hug girl (ใฅ โโฟโ )ใฅ
Thank you เซฎโ ยด ๊ณ `โแ ๐ซ
I'm glad to have you here, Lily! You will find a way to manage your mental health, because you are strong enough to not give up looking. A good therapist should be able to help you even if you struggle to verbalize the exact issue; writing down your thoughts when they get somewhat clear and presenting them to a therapist is an option. I once read here and someone you wrote extensive Lemmy posts and then just showed them to their therapist, but I can't remember who that was.
Be sure to take breaks as needed, and to allow yourself not to be a work horse. Maybe also check if you're eating healthy and drinking+sleeping enough. Being sloppy with those things easily leads to physical discomfort / exhaustion.
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Money is too tight for a therapist to be honest I had free ones I already used them this year. I could get a psychiatrist for free but the only one I know is trustworthy has a 2 year waitlist.
And I'm not going to just see anybody to be randomly drugged.
Fair.
Hey Lily, you are not alone in this. It is unfortunately very common to suffer from poor mental health even after transitioning as it isn't a magic switch that makes everything better (although it does help a lot). Sometimes you need to set aside some time to do something you enjoy and try to forget the problems you face for a bit. It can help your body kind of reset and reenergise you.
I wish I could really find something again I could hyperfocus on. Problem is I'm trying just to find dopamine boosts. It's hard to do basic things sometimes and not just playing a game to keep my mind busy and sometimes I don't even feel like doing that when my lows are bad.
i feel this so much. i am at a point where there's not much i can do toward transitioning without a job. problem is, after months upon months of unemployment i'm struggling to apply for work. i don't know if it's executive dysfunction or depression or something else, but i feel absolutely stuck and it's so frustrating because i want to do the things. i want my life to move forward. i don't even do the things i enjoy doing anymore.
sorry to make this about me, i just want you to know that you're not alone. i absolutely empathize. so if it's okay, please have a hug from me.
I still have a job though but I have been on sick leave. I'm going back tomorrow and somehow I know I'll be judged and honestly make me way too anxious. But I have to face it.
At some point, I'm pretty sure I'm gonna loose my job though. Moving out has been taxing to rebuy stuff for the apartment and to help my current gf.
Edit : no worries I get it. Giving you a hug too if you want one ๐ซ
i wish you the best going back to work. i can certainty understand your feeling anxious. i hope you and your gf are able to work together and support each other. thanks for the hug!
I think it's the weather. I've been feeling a bit heavy the last week, probably because temperature has dropped from around 30ยฐC (gosh i love the heat) to around 15ยฐC and raining.
I love the cold weather though :x