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Transition should be done before age 18 (lemmy.ca)
submitted 5 days ago by sidalsolgun@lemmy.ca to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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I'm not creating this post to make people feel sad or hopeless but saying "it's never too late" is just unrealistic and stupid.

It's always too late for transition, and you still have to transition. The best case would be never entering the wrong puberty but this is almost impossible for all of us thanks to fascist governments/society who don't care about us.

At age 18, male puberty ends. It gets even worse until 25, and keeps getting worse if you don't start HRT ASAP.

I could pass without surgeries if I transitioned at age 15-16, maybe I would get surgery for my voice but that's it.

I don't care if you're doing well after transitioning at age 25, just never say "it's never too late for transition".

I would be brutally honest but I don't want to trigger anyone but even though I transitioned at age 18 I'm not getting triggered by people who transitioned at age 15.

You can't give people advice with your feelings.

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[–] brookedSmile@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

I obviously care about this as a 32 yr old

This is wrong. And not only is it wrong its toxic and detrimental to our community.

Its never too late for anyone. Because when someone believes its too late for them to be happy and not hate themselves, they end up doing horrible things.

Youre wrong.

Edit: also, with how many girls here struggle with their age and thinking that it is too late a post like this is just going to convince them that it is too late and theres no hope

I dont give a fuck if your 32, 42, 49, 59, or 80. If youre here its not "too late". You got here exactly when you need too. Its nice that younger people can think like this, good for them. But i know what it was like pre 2000, or earlier.

Transitioning before 18 WAS NOT AN OPTION for me, for a lot of us. And im pretty popular here, you saying im too late??

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago

It's always too late for transition, and you still have to transition.

Your post is a little hard to parse because there seems to be a few different ideas happening, but this part seems the most helpful.
"The best time to plant a tree is 10 years ago. The 2nd best time is today."_
I think this is the general idea you're trying to convey while also grappling with regret for not being able to start sooner?

[–] akunohana@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 days ago

Your intentions are utterly insignificant. Here are some facts for you, since you don't seem to appreciate feelings: your post is hostile.

Why don't you just put a gun to my head and pull the trigger? I'm 38 after all, and I have already struggled enough with feelings of meaninglessness and worthlessness.

[–] akunohana@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I’m not creating this post to make people feel sad or hopeless but saying “it’s never too late” is just unrealistic and stupid.

Why are you creating this post?

[–] brookedSmile@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 days ago

Great question

[–] DmMacniel@feddit.org 2 points 5 days ago

Yes its better to transition as soon as possible, ideally before puberty.

But saying that there is a point where it is too late to transition is just needless gatekeeping euphoria.

[–] belated_frog_pants@beehaw.org 1 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

This is toxic as fuck. I transitioned at 38 and couldn't be happier about it. All you are doing with this is using your anger at the world to sling shit at other trans people and its not healthy.

Whenever you do it is the right time. You cant turn back the clock, no one can. That isnt a reason to give up. Happiness is possible.

[–] sidalsolgun@lemmy.ca -1 points 5 days ago

People are using 4tran/4chan because of people who say "it's never too late for transition".