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Only if they're teaching.

Or, if you have a big enough kitchen.

And, maybe two stoves.

Two kitchens, that's what's needed. Two whole kitchens next to each other, then you can cook together.

Don't fucking tell me how to chop onions, I've been chopping onions my whole life. I don't care what you saw on YouTube. And, yes, I just cracked an egg on the edge of the bowl, do you SEE any shell in the egg? No. Because I've been cracking eggs that way longer than you've been alive. Go grind sea salt, or something, leave me alone.

Imagine not wanting someone cutting the vegetables and watching the pots for you

My wife and I have both worked in a kitchen, when we are both in the kitchen it works really well, but there are discrete tasks and we don't hoverr over each other or any of that shit. And we call behind and turn pot handles in and put towels on hot handles and keep knife blades turned down. All the little things.

I disagree. I love cooking with my wife, because we distribute the tasks and I enjoy her company. Those of you, who have issues with stuff like that might need to work on your cooperation skills.

depends on the size of kitchen available.

Bullshit, I love it when my partner hangs around the kitchen while I cook. We get into all sorts of silly discussions or deep philosophical debates.

I especially love when my child is in the kitchen because I have the chance to teach them new things, or they tell me about their day, or vent their frustrations, or tell me a cheesy joke ect.

Only grumpy assholes wouldn't want other people in the kitchen and frankly I don't care what grumpy assholes want.

Really? I had great fun cooking with my girlfriend. Or cooking with kids. Or cooking a massive meal with a bunch of friends. This is a bad post.

My wife and I love to cook together.

I feel this one in my soul. I am not an expert cook, though I don't do too badly--but I do need to concentrate on the kitchen. People need to leave me the heck alone when I'm cooking or baking.

It can, but you better be cleanup or prep if I'm cooking.

Depends on the cooking. One person peel veg and the other chopping it works perfectly well.

2 people kneading the same bit of dough while one is stood behind is just dumb.

It works if you establish who’s the lead and who’s helping before you start.

There is a distinct difference in cooking as a couple activity and cooking as a chore.

Well, except literally every professional chefs, of course.

my gf's a chef and loves having me in the kitchen (or so she says) i stay at a station though to keep out of her way eg at breakfast I'm making espresso, cooking toast, heating something in the microwave for her etc she has the stove/sink/fridge/bench area

95% of our meals are at home because she is particular about her food ( and she's good at it IMO)

Love is to share all moments togather, and be happy for eachother no matter what

There is not a single second where the other person isn't standing in front of a drawer or door that you need to acces pronto.

Nah, cooking with my wife is great. And it's best when neither of us necessarily has to delegate tasks. Figuring out which tasks need to be done and and which order can sometimes be a huge cognitive load! That's why if you ask someone what can you do to help they might get mad, you've asked them to take on the mental load of how to make you useful.

Instead a much better approach is too look at what they are doing and think for yourself what needs to be done! Uncut veggies that need to be chopped, ask if they want you to chop the veggies. Dishes piling up in the sink? Ask them if they want you to clean the dishes. Are they making something that needs boiling water, like pasta or potatoes? Go ahead and get a pot of water boiling. It's much better for someone helping to not just complete the task, but to identify it too.

With my partner we often swap between different styles, if it's something she wants, she's in charge but I still try to find ways to help without her asking to do it. Other times the roles are reversed and she's helping me. For big events like Thanksgiving, we are both overwhelmed and will often know what needs to be done and just do it, no one's in charge, we are approaching this like a team.

If your partner never wants you in the kitchen, it's probably because you're useless and have to be babied to handle the simplest of tasks. (Which is not always bad, not everyone can cook, but everyone should be able to do dishes!) Or in a really small kitchen where there just isn't space.

But the same is true if you are a guest, my friends have gotten pretty good at seeing what needs doing and will just do it! Helping with the dishes, setting the table, making cocktails, etc. Making themselves useful without adding to someone's cognitive load that is hosting people or making a meal. However it is very frustrating when a guest who is not familiar asks how they can help, they don't know where anything belongs, so they cannot effectively complete any tasks without being micromanaged, including dishes, because some things can't go in the dishwasher and they won't know what those are! The best things guest can do in these scenarios is usually to bring already made items, like drinks, or prepare them ahead of time, or only need widely available appliances to finish, like 10 minutes in an oven to brown a casserole.

I cook and my girl does the dishes because I’m terrible at dish management and when I’m done there’s dishes everywhere. Our system works well for us. She gets good food and I don’t have to do dishes. Win win.

If I am making something that requires a lot of steps or making multiple dishes, I don't mind a helper that actually helps and stays out of the way of what I'm doing while they do what they're doing.

Of course that also assumes I am in a kitchen with room. My apartment's kitchen wouldn't make a difference even if my helper was a clone of myself. Not enough room for a second person to not be in the way constantly.

We got into a katsu phase and it was really pleasant to be cooking together - one person breading, the other frying. Love is frying together. 💞

Love is get the fuck out of my kitchen.

Eh, maybe I'm lucky but we enjoy cooking and enjoy cooking together. We know we can trust each other.