From my perspective, it comes down to what you like and enjoy being. If gender fluid is what you like and enjoy then it's that. If boy/man/masc is the thing you enjoy than it's that.
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The important question I found myself asking as a trans woman who thought she was genderfluid: Have you ever had any agab role models that you actually wanted to be like? Realizing that looking at men I felt the feeling of "I'm not whatever you are" helped me a lot, noticing that all of my role models were girls.
Also, when you imagine yourself growing older, would you want to grow old as a woman or a man? Because the idea of growing old as a man was distressing to me. Growing old as a woman, though, sounded great.
The difficulty for me was that I knew my sense of gender shifted, I just couldn't figure out the details. Like, there are times where my sense of gender identity is more or less strong, so the "most accurate" term for my identity is genderflux demigirl. I fluctuate but it's between feeling "more woman" and "less woman", though I'm always a woman.
hmm, i know i'll probably grow old as a woman with my luck, but i think i'd much prefer it to be happy and be a man that never get to transition and repress my feelings.
noticing that all of my role models were girls.
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I fluctuate but it’s between feeling “more woman” and “less woman”, though I’m always a woman.
were things that I really needed to read in my mood tonight. Thanks! 💗
I hadn't really noticed how much I've rooted for Cinderella and Snow-white when I was a little boy. And while I did indeed like watching Batman, I never really related with Batman. It's always just been some stimulating action that's been fun to watch, but Batman has not been something I would ever felt any interest in becoming like. Watching Pocahontas I could relate to the character, watching Batman or Superman I was more of an outside observer, in a way. Interesting!
omg!!! thats so funny!!! i enjoyed the disney princess stuff but saw them more as friends, maybe mother figures. i wanted to be like batman!!!
Your comments read as male to me. Every time you mentioned presenting fem, it was in response to external pressures. Gender is internal and innate. Your reactions to external pressure says more about your character than your gender.
Only you can figure yourself out for sure.
thanks man, i am a guy
Well said. This about "Every time you mentioned presenting fem, it was in response to external pressures." feels very relatable. Although, for me it's the other way around, me being Assumed Male At Birth. But good words to read in any case, thanks!