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[–] blueamigafan@lemmy.world 49 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Fuck this was my childhood right there

[–] rustyfish@piefed.world 19 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Same. I hope you made it past those toxic fucks and found happiness. Consider yourself hugged.

[–] blueamigafan@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

Thanks dude x

[–] Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.org 4 points 2 months ago

Same, though being exited or enthusiastic about anything was permanently killed off back then.

[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 2 points 2 months ago

Same. Also my first long term relationship (which was awful in many other ways)

[–] protist@retrofed.com 49 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Gotta work on not letting other people's negativity infect you. Someone who says mean things like that to you is only airing their own demons

[–] PunnyName@lemmy.world 22 points 2 months ago (1 children)

When people tell you who they are, listen. And as needed, toss them aside.

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 16 points 2 months ago

I'll tell you what I told my kid after they explained to me the differences between Raphael and Leonardo TMNT's for the 30th time in two days.

it's good to be excited about a topic that interests you, but don't expect others to not only not reciprocate but not share in that excitement.

it's nothing personal, it's nothing against your topic of choice. sometimes a topic that excites you won't excite everyone for multiple reasons.

now please stop yelling in my face about turtles.

[–] GaimDS@lemmy.world 14 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Had this happen so much I just started doing it to myself unconsciously lol

[–] School_Lunch@lemmy.world 14 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Being the youngest in a big family, this happened to me constantly. I have now become a recluse and feel bad about myself when I have almost any social interaction where I get excited about something.

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 3 points 2 months ago

Yeah, feels better not to bother friends, in-case they will get annoyed and bored too.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 14 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

My wife, an elementary school teacher, told me about this phenomenon where the kids would get really excited about doing something and for some practical reason she had to tell them they couldn't do it. She hated to see "their little shoulders fall." We noticed our own kids doing the shoulder thing when we had to cancel plans, ran out of ice cream or whatever. It's a very deflated gesture.

[–] fork@feddit.online 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I don't need anyone to tell me that to feel that way. I just do that on my own.

[–] trashcroissant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 months ago

I mean, possibly because someone did it to you enough growing up?

[–] kahjtheundedicated@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Replace that with rage. Telling someone to go fuck themselves is always an option, and sometimes appropriate

[–] NutinButNet@hilariouschaos.com 6 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I still remember my group of friends in elementary school back when Pokémon was getting very popular.

One of the kids was so genuinely nice, a bigger kid who was obsessed with both Star Trek and the Honey I Shrunk series of movies. But he would talk about Star Trek a lot more. One day he was talking about it, probably a new episode of New Generation and one of my other friends turned to him and said, “Can you shut up about Star Trek? We’re all into Pokémon now. No one cares about that crap.”

You could just see the look of sadness on that kid’s face. I hate that I didn’t speak up for him. Everyone else went silent too. Then he started talking about Pikachu and trying to relate to Pokémon instead of what he wanted to talk about :/

He was just excited and trying to connect with the people he felt close to…

[–] OldChicoAle@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

Wow that one friend was a dick

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 5 points 2 months ago

Learned early on to keep go at it alone for this reason.

It also made sure that I look down at those people now with contempt.

[–] mycodesucks@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Not everyone is always going to always be interested in everything you have to say, but when someone responds to that feeling by calling you annoying or telling you to shut up?

That is no longer your problem - that is THEIRS. That's an inappropriate, childish response to someone's enthusiasm, and frankly, you deserve better friends than that.

[–] liuther9@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

Lets say someone talking a lot without reading the room. Your head is aching already. What is your move?

[–] EvasiveSpecies@lemmy.world 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

If you get told to shut up enough times you get the "Are you shy? Why do you never talk about yourself or what you like?" achievement.

[–] starelfsc2@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago

I think it's that someone unknown is interesting to people because you could be anything, but as soon as you start talking about arch linux you've shown your hand and it's not intriguing anymore.

[–] Avicenna@programming.dev 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

If this happened to you you should probably stay away from those people and find your self a better match. Ofcourse I might be overshooting because I don't have enough context.

[–] qualia@lemmy.world -1 points 2 weeks ago

It can be difficult to find people who are well-socialized. 😟

[–] Omnipitaph@reddthat.com 2 points 2 months ago

Finding good friends is hard, but well worth it. Big hugs, and don't give up on your excitement or dreams just because of some jerk!

[–] hayvan@piefed.world 2 points 2 months ago

Don't forget being called "obsessed"

[–] recklessengagement@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

"Fuck you, let people enjoy things"

[–] chiliedogg@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago

Unless they derive their joy from belittling others.

[–] BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today 2 points 2 months ago

Or you could just not let those people have power over you. They think you're annoying? They want you to stop?

No. Just NO. And then go on and be as happy and excited as you like. Let THEM be unhappy, not you.