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(EVNT) I hate being unable to get Womens Underwear or Bikinis :c (feddit.org)
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As explained in my Last Post regardfing Phimosis i do have a Dick which itd like to keep >.<

and for that exact reason i will never be able to wear Female Underwear or Bikinis :c
While Female Underwear i can atleast compensate for via Man Slips (because fuck Boxers theyre cringe even before i found out i was Trans >:c) but its very Frustrating that i cant do anything for Bikinis :c

Especially as someone who wants a Smol Boobs, Huge, Dick and Big Butt Combo and would love to be A Cup or Max B Cup due to me being Enby and also liking to wear Mens Clothes ts very annoying overall to be in such Situations :c

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[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I don't intend to keep my thing, but I have been wearing these for about 2 years while also having said thing.

Don't let your dreams be dreams!

Edit: Also, lots of women have found ways to tuck and wear a bikini. I haven't tried, but it's possible.

[–] RetroHax@feddit.org 5 points 2 months ago (2 children)

oooo these look nice :0
But sucks that theyre on Amazon as i dont even have an Account on there >.<
Will see if i can find similiar ones on Other Sites or maybe even in my Local Clothes SHops >.<
I never tried tucking because it feels very Scary and hurts for a long time >.<

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

The key to get high waisted ones imo, wherever you find them.
These ones are meant for postpartum women, so they are meant to be a little more stretchy and accommodating in that area, which happens to also make them appropriate for our needs.

[–] Nikki@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

tucking gets easier once you get some shrinkage from hrt, I still can't though it makes me nauseous :(

[–] RetroHax@feddit.org 2 points 2 months ago

I have Phimosis tho so i alrwady am scared of taking HRT due to it meaning i cant move my Foreskin at all :c

[–] EggInDisguise@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 months ago

I've not worn a bikini due to self cons ious about my stomach, but I have worn leggings which are very hugging.

I use a pair of underwear called a gaff (I haven't clicked on the other comment link to check but I'm guessing it's a pair) and it pulls everything up nicely. It's not "unclockable" if someone wants to get up close and inspect, but hopefully anyone that close already knows you well and doesn't care.

I also use KT tape (DO NOT USE DUCT TAPE) for squishing everything up. No bathroom breaks like that, but I carry a couple small pieces in my purse and tape in a way that I can go, then put on a small piece. Note: I am a grower not a shower, so normally everything can fold up nice and neat, if a little pronounced. If it's cold out, one pair of underwear is usually enough. Otherwise it's 2 pairs of normal underwear. I'm chubby so it's not out of place on me to have a slight bulge in the pelvic area as a woman.

I won't speculate on sizing, but if tucking underwear is uncomfortable, KT tape can be used to "pull it back" between your legs.

[–] will_steal_your_username@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

There are garments that holds everything properly if it's of proper shape and size for you, and there's underwear and bikinis designed specifically for trans people / femboys / drag queens etc.

Some might need tucking, some will hold stuff even without. Latex underwear that is a size smaller can help hold things in place, and you can wear it underneath other underwear or garments.

I personally use boyshorts but I have panties as well, and I have a swimming dress that I really like. They're all really designed for cis people but they fit me just fine. My cheaper medium sized boyshorts however do usually lose their shape after I wear it for a bit and it stops holding things well. My shapewear that compresses my waist and is like a pantie in the crotch fits really well.

[–] celeste@feddit.org 0 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Didn't Adidas once design a tucking swimsuit?

[–] Bryllyg@piefed.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I just found this site today and they seem very cute and designed for dangly bits https://enfemmestyle.com/collections/lingerie

[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 months ago

I've had good success with Rubyshines bikinis. They're kinda overpriced though.