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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I've not worn a bikini due to self cons ious about my stomach, but I have worn leggings which are very hugging.
I use a pair of underwear called a gaff (I haven't clicked on the other comment link to check but I'm guessing it's a pair) and it pulls everything up nicely. It's not "unclockable" if someone wants to get up close and inspect, but hopefully anyone that close already knows you well and doesn't care.
I also use KT tape (DO NOT USE DUCT TAPE) for squishing everything up. No bathroom breaks like that, but I carry a couple small pieces in my purse and tape in a way that I can go, then put on a small piece. Note: I am a grower not a shower, so normally everything can fold up nice and neat, if a little pronounced. If it's cold out, one pair of underwear is usually enough. Otherwise it's 2 pairs of normal underwear. I'm chubby so it's not out of place on me to have a slight bulge in the pelvic area as a woman.
I won't speculate on sizing, but if tucking underwear is uncomfortable, KT tape can be used to "pull it back" between your legs.