To be fair one of my friends who is a cis woman didn't realize there was currently no way for a trans woman to have a uterus until I told her
this post was submitted on 11 May 2026
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Its only a matter of time π
Jesus, I wish we could have uteruses (uteri?). I can't get pregnant but I sure do keep trying.
Just a quick note here, it's a good idea to tell those you are dating that you are trans in a safe place. I had a cis guy tell me that he dumped his mtf date on the side of the road when he realized that she was trans while they were making out. Make sure that your date knows before you get physical! Stay safe, friend
I didnt want to bring this up but yeahhhh if in the USA definitely be safe out there. Especially with the "gay panic defense" being a thing in some parts of the country π°
Is it really more accepted in other countries? Letβs say outside of south east Asia.
I dont know about other countries but the "gay panic defense" is terrifying
Dont read the spoiler if you dont wanna know
spoiler
The gay panic defense has been accepted as a legal defense in at least a couple states, with most other states not addressing it or not having it come up yet. Its a defense to murder. Essentially boils down to person A is trans (or gay, or some other lgbt flavor) and person B is not and also doesnt know person A is. Date ensues, go back to either persons house, make out yada yada. Then person B finds out while undressing that person A is trans. Person B freaks out, and murders person A. Person B claims "gay panic" saying that the shock of finding out sent person B into a temporary insanity/psychosis and that theyre not responsible for what happened.
While this defense isnt used terribly often nowadays, it still allowed in several states (or hasnt been banned). Read more here or on wikipedia
Yeah the US isnβt great. But I imagine things are even worse in like Latin American countries where machismo and/or Catholicism is a big thing. Or African and middle eastern countries where being gay is enough to get you stoned to death. Some of those countries might not even investigate, thus not even having a βdefense.β
Congratulations!!! You pass!!!!!!
Lmao guys do be oblivious π
God I'm so glad I am lesbian
You definitely rolled a nat 20 on attraction π
I know what you actually mean but I'm going to choose to take this as a compliment on my appearance :3
Why not both? β€οΈβ€οΈ
Smooth :3
Yeah I've learned to be very direct about it since some people seem not to read profiles at all. I hate dating apps, but it seems like there aren't many other options to meet new people these days, especially if you aren't really into the bar scene.