I'm a female at birth, so not sure if I'm supposed to comment here, but I was just telling my husband earlier this week that layering makes me feel distinctly feminine! I wore a slip with a bit of lace at the bottom hem, and then a slightly shorter slip with extra fabric at the hem, then a dress over both for Thanksgiving for flowy peak a boo layers. The act of putting on several beautiful and soft and lovely layers that were pointless beyond being pretty made me feel so happy and girly :)

I hope you can find some stuff that makes you feel happy and girly :)

If it were me, I'd be wearing thigh highs and/or panties under my boyclothes >:)

But to answer your question:

Painting nails, a classic.

Cleaning, trimming and filing nails to make them look nice.

Relaxing in a nice long bath.

Shaving or otherwise removing body hair.

Put a ribbon or flower in your hair!

I’m sorry you have to suffer this.

As an ally I’d suggest, all the things my wife loves, in the hope that it may help?

Subversive- wear your best silky underwear, hidden so the fam won’t know.

Overt — before and after; tea, a long indulgent bath and self care, mani - pedi (maybe best for after)

I hope any of this helps.

I'm not trans, so I apologize if this advice is misplaced but I recently bought a soft, fuzzy, pink and purple nightgown that came with thigh high striped socks. I love to put it on after a long hot shower. I feel so cute and girly and silly when I am wearing it, and it's surprisingly warm!

Ngl I wouldn't do that for a partner. Not a chance. I don't have family in my life. No future partners of mine will meet my family. I don't have to meet my partners' families. I wouldn't make myself miserable for two weeks minimum for any family. Not a chance I would do this. You say "when I am safe again." I wouldn't be with a partner who wanted me to feel like that for their comfort.

Styling my hair with a clip, ribbon, or scarf hits the spot for me.

I have recently discovered an invention. It covers blemishes, wrinkles, and has been known to at least one person to help with self-confidence. I call it "makeup."

Joking aside, I'm starting to find that incorporating makeup into my morning routine helps with my self-image and confidence. And a little goes a long way! A bit of foundation or concealer, some eyeshadow, some blush, a touch of lipstick, and in 20 or so minutes, you'll look fabulous! I've only applied it to myself a few times, but getting some help from my kids and some new friends has helped me a lot!

If you aren't comfortable with makeup yet, I suggest finding a few trusted friends to paint you up and give you some pointers, if you haven't already!

Lately its been skincare :) doing my daily routine makes me feel fresh bright and girly. Ive gotten really into it and the difference it makes on your face is amazing! Just taking good care of myself and my body makes me feel very feminine. Doing my hair every day, picking out my outfits, taking good care of my teeth. Investing time and energy into me. It feels good, and I try my best to do it each day.